A little more help please...

[reellis527]

You helped me before with this...

Suspect my daughter is being physically or emotinally abused when in ncp care so I made an appointment iwth a bahavioral specialist (tomorrow) and have withheld the child from the ncp this past weekend.  NCP is allowed to pick the child up Monday's from school and spend time with her until 7:30, since I withheld her pending her appointment and hopefully emeregency hearing he threatened to take her out of school and that I won't get her back, so of course I didn't send her to school.  I don't want to continue not sending her to school even though on her school records he can only pick her up on Mondays, I don't want the school to have to worry about his drama and my daughter witness him acting a fool.  

1) can not sending her to school bite me in the butt? (even though I believe it's in her best interest)
2) can his threat of taking her from school be grounds for him "never" to be able to pick her up from school again (as it used to be)?
3) if the behavioral speciliast doesn't given me something concrete that something is going on with my daughter how do I proceed, tell him I'm sorry and he can see her?

[socrateaser]

>You helped me before with this...
>
>Suspect my daughter is being physically or emotinally abused
>when in ncp care so I made an appointment iwth a bahavioral
>specialist (tomorrow) and have withheld the child from the ncp
>this past weekend.  NCP is allowed to pick the child up
>Monday's from school and spend time with her until 7:30, since
>I withheld her pending her appointment and hopefully
>emeregency hearing he threatened to take her out of school and
>that I won't get her back, so of course I didn't send her to
>school.  I don't want to continue not sending her to school
>even though on her school records he can only pick her up on
>Mondays, I don't want the school to have to worry about his
>drama and my daughter witness him acting a fool.  
>
>1) can not sending her to school bite me in the butt? (even
>though I believe it's in her best interest)

If you can't prove that something is going on, the not sending the child to school is an affirmative act against the child's best interests, and it could be used as such to try to demonstrate that you are unreasonably paranoid and that you will stop at nothing to frustrate the other parent's access to the child.

>2) can his threat of taking her from school be grounds for him
>"never" to be able to pick her up from school again (as it
>used to be)?

It depends on whether he has the right to pick up the child. If so, then no, if not, then the act is potentially contempt. Only, how do you intend to prove this threat? Your word against the other parent is not proof that the could will be interested in hearing.

>3) if the behavioral speciliast doesn't given me something
>concrete that something is going on with my daughter how do I
>proceed, tell him I'm sorry and he can see her?

That's about the size of it, although I wouldn't say I'm sorry in the presense of any third party, because that's pretty much an admission of contempt on your part.

[catherine]

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[reellis527]

What's the hmmm for?  I have been planning a move for a long time and for your information the behavior specilist confirmed my suspicions and he will be facing the courts right now.  Please believe I don't need to move to terminate his visitation he has terminated his own!

[catherine]

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[reellis527]

I did not confirm anything the specilist confirmed.

I'm not looking for an abuse angle as I stated I don't need one.  I don't have any verbage in my order that states I have to stay here and two summers ago I put on the record that I was looking to move.  I am a step mother and wanted information for knowledge in my case with my daughter but to have the information ready available when it's time to approach the situation with my step daughter.

I don't care about you being suspect or anything else and I'm not sure why you would give a damn about my reasons for being here unless they were specifically hurting you.   The question you should have asked was how far was I moving to and them maybe you comment about moving far away wouldn't have been warranted because I am moving less then thirty minutes away, it is just another state.  Thanks but no thanks for your concerns and skepticism.

[socrateaser]

I realize that there may be people who will come here with a motive that others may find repugnant. Nevertheless, my goal is to give clear information and advice, regardless of anyone's motive, and leave the value judgments out.

The reason for this, is that as soon as an adversarial environment arises here, there will be at least one group who will feel alienated and they will stop posting.

I have no agenda other than to provide information. I certainly have my own beliefs about the current state of family law, but I try hard not to assert it, except in situations where a poster is so extreme in his/her position that no reasonable person could possibly agree.

So, please stop the argument now, or I'll just delete the entire thread, so as to prevent others from being disuaded from posting.

Thanks for your cooperation.

[catherine]

deleting my posts ...

[socrateaser]

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[catherine]

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