what do judges look for in a mom?

[mikezz]

to win my case,

what are some things to point out and things to not waste my time with?


these are the following things about my x

abortions (3) not with me.
suicidal behaviors (she cut her wrist 3 times)
was a high school drop out and does not have GED either.
was raised by father in houston
drug abuse (known through depostion)
alchol abuse
arrested for assault on me.
lesbian relationships (depostion)
stripper and also a waitress at stripclub.
dated a married man for 4 years (deposition)
"swinger" (deposition)
has sugar daddy from stripclub paying legal fees
chose to put my son in daycare other then the one father presently works in.
has a new boyfriend who is a convicted felon two times for cocaine.
her best friend is gay and solicites himself on the internet using my x's aol account.
 

Or should I keep being the cooperative one?   She kept telling the judge that I was using the baby to get back (reconcile) with her.  
She was arrested for assault, I went to california, got a restraining order, she lurred me back to texas, got a protective order served on me a couple days later.  3 months later and 20 thousand spent, ad litem, attorneys fees..etc, the judge has rejected the protective orders, we are joint managing conservators. however, my visitation is standard.  How could this be.??  I want 50 50.  I work with kids at work, live healthy, go to church, (something my x doesn't) and just a simple man.  Too simple for my X.  anyhow, god help "men"
thanks for any advise on any of this.

[littlebit]

Bring up all of it in one way or another.  The little items are necessary to paint the big picture of instability, immorality, etc.  

These are the things that could win your case if you have solid evidence:
arrested for assault
suicidal
drug abuse
alcohol abuse

These are relevent, but not deciding factors on thier own:
boyfriend with drug history
stripper
swinger

These are not supposed to be relevent, but here in the deep south, believe you me, they would be!
abortions
dated married man
sugar daddy
gay friend
lesbian

These are merely my opinions.  Hope it helps!

[wendl]

My take

Important:
suicidal behaviors (she cut her wrist 3 times)
drug abuse (known through depostion)
drug abuse (known through depostion)
alcohol abuse
arrested for assault on me.
has a new boyfriend who is a convicted felon two times for cocaine
"swinger" (deposition)
chooses to put my son in daycare other then the one father presently works in.

No offense just because she works in a stip club doesn't make her a bad mother,HOWEVER if she works night shifts, request that you watch the chlid. (I know a great girl whom works in a strip club, she leaves work at work)

Her being raised by her father is not really an issue, unless he was abusive etc.

Being gay does not make one a bad parent, I know a lesbian couple who are raising a healthy teenage boy and are good parents.


Good luck
**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**