Criminal non support

[penny]

Finally I am getting somewhere. I have been with Mo. Dept. Child support Enforcement for 15 years. That was pretty much a joke. The ex owes me 77,000.00 in back support. My kids are now 19 & 20. Daughter is still in medical school. I guess I'm proud of myself for supporting these two kids by myself without any help from the government. Well I just turned 40 this year and at a turning point in my life. I am going after the S.O.B. Two weeks ago I called Washington D.C. to government complaint hot line. They gave me a number to a lady in Mo., in charge of all CS offices. It must have worked, they have now filed criminal non support. It probably helped, because I called every elected official for the State of Missouri. If he does not show for court and has to be arrested, he will have to post a cash bond for 10% of what he owes before they let him out. He will have 5 years to pay back the money or go to prison for 5 years. He will be on parole, so if he misses a payment, back to the slammer he goes. He said it would be a cold day in Hell, before he paid me any money. I wonder if he is shivering yet?

[dontunderstand]

GOOD FOR YOU!!!  I am glad that you are taking action, pretty soon I bet he will ask you for a glass of water!!!

[reagantrooper]

Must not be to proud of supporting your kids on your own now are you! If you are why are you looking for pay back?

How often did you keep his kids away from him if at all? Would you admitt it here?

How many times did you speak ill of him to his kids if at all? Would you admitt it here?


Yea now that your kids are grown its time for your payday. Geez of course you should get paid for raising your kids. Why the F should it have cost you anything? You have earned at least %35 of his pay.

Yes you are correct he should be put in jail for not submitting to the involentary servitude he was ordered into. WTF is this country coming to when we let these criminals get away with this shit?  


So if he won the lottery and sent you a check for 77K, how much of that 77K would be profit to you? Could you prove your out of pocket expences? How much of that 77K would you have had to spend regarless if you had kids or not?

Its about accountability why the hell is there no accountability for the money?

Good luck to you! I hope you get your revenge so that you can move on with your life!

[penny]

Wow are you one of those deadbeats? For your info I was married to this wonderful man for 9 years. The first time he beat me up, I was 8 months pregnant with his son. By the time I was 22 I had two children. He moved us to Florida. He started using crack cocaine, let the crack dealer move into our home. He lost his job, I worked installing tile and marble for disney. Paid daycare for two, couldn't leave my kids home with a crack head. He left for two days after he knocked the shit out of me and took my money. Showed back up higher than a kite, picked up my son and slammed him into the wall. I body tackled him and he continued to beat the crap out of me. My 5 year old son called 911. I woke up in the hospital with a broken arm, 3 cracked ribs, tooth missing, punctured lung, and 17 stitches in my head. Oh what a wonderful husband he was!!!!!!!!!!! He got 30 days in the slammer and anger management classes. We moved to Missouri while he was in jail. Took me 3 months to heal before I could work again. I have paid all living expenses, copays, braces, field trips to D.C., roller hockey, dance classes, graduation expenses, 1 car, 1 truck, insurance for two teens driving, and 14,000.00 dollars for 1 year medical school, only 7 more to go.  Yep I think the S.O.B. owes me some money. I have worked a union job 40 hours a week, drove 10, and worked many a weekend doing side jobs to pay for everything. He has sent 2 birthday cards in 15 years. Has called twice. He had them for a 3 day weekend only for me to get a call from cops, that he left them in a motel for 2 days. (great dad). Had to drive 2 hours to pick these scared to death children up. Can't remember how much I paid the shrink to get rid of the nightmares.
He lives in a lakefront house, drives a 50,000.00 monster truck and don"t forget the bass boat. I guess I should mention the 32,000.00 in taxes that he owed, took me 7 years to pay the I.R.S. just because I was married to him they said I owed the money also. Yeah, you could say I am out for revenge. Look out because here I come!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Any more comments from the peanut gallery?

[reagantrooper]

Some story you got there hun!

[penny]

So, do you think he still doesn't owe me any money? He makes approx. 75,000 a year as do I. I guess he shouldn't have to give up 1 year of wages to help pay for his kids for the last 15 years. Wouldn't want to him give up gambling at the casino, buying new rims and tires for his truck or supporting the latest bar whore he has picked up. I figured it up, in 15 years I have brought home 750,000. Per year that is about 50,000, divided by 3, me and two kids. That equals about 16,750.00 per person. If you take 16,750.00 times two for the kids for 15 years. WOW that equals 502,500.00. I guess he is really getting screwed by having to pay 77,000. Don't you feel sorry for him?

[joni]

clearly this woman is just venting her frustrations and anger on the people of this community.  

[marybeth33]

Well I am a mom of twin boys age 10. My divorce was only final 2 years ago and I also have recieved no child support. I pretty much have accepted that their dad will not financially contribute to the necessities in his childrens life. My ex refuses to work because hes so determined not to pay child support! AND he is only required to pay 244.00 a month for 2 kids! The minimum amount.
I provide fully for my kids. I try to take on the peoples perspective here on this site. I do. I just wonder however if they were left in our shoes how they would feel? We didnt create these children by immaculate conception. The fathers were there too. Why is it the mothers responsibilkity after a break up or divorce to take the full responsibility in these people eyes? I dont understand that?
Why are we suppost to not be angry and suck it up? Seriously I would like to know?
Oh and my ex also chose to move 200 miles away from his children. his drivers license is now suspended because he hasnt paid child support. And he is telling the children that I should drive them to see him? Im already paying for all the expenses why at 2.60 per gallon should I have to drive that far  to bring the kids to him?

I think you have done a great job in getting your case this far. I know Im having a HELL of a time shaking anyone up in Minnesota - hes freeloading off another woman now and OH has another baby on the way he wont pay for next month!

Such honorable men  puuuuleeeaasssse!!!

[penny]

I'm sorry that you are in the same situation. Start with your elected officials, call them everyday, most have 800 #'s. I think the state reps stirred up the CS office. Gotta watch the phone bills, you know the next C.S. payment is in the mail. Watch it before long, joni will be calling you a troll. I have went back and read some of joni's post. She's good at posting different web sites. She is a second wife, wonder if she was the cause of the first divorce. Looks like she has a child fom previous relationship, wonder how much child support she has coming in on a regular monthly schedule. $$$$$ Did she get a rich one second time around? Does she have to work or just sit around eating Bon Bon's? Makes you wonder who the real TROLL is?

[metamorphosis]

The problem is that there are the s***heads on both sides.  On the one side you have mothers who are forced to support their children with no help from the BFs or have been through terrible ordeals with the BFs.  On the other hand you have people like my husband who pay their support (not always on time, but it is there) and goes through hell just to see his kids eow.  Now he is fighting to stop her from moving across the country, but it doesn't look like there is much we can do.  
There are deadbeat dads.  There are crappy money-hungry mothers.  
Unfortunately they seem to draw all the attention away from the many good mothers and fathers and step-parents who really just love the kids and want what's best for them.  
That's just SAD