I keep the kids and still pay her (need advise)

[Jeff2121]

10738, "mom wants to move out of state"


           TN dad, I have two questiones: For about a year and a half I have been keeping my kids (13 and 14) most of the time, however; I have been also paying child support to my ex wife (she has custody). I know this may seem strange but it it all started when my ex wife decided to go to nursing school about a year and half ago. I was asked by her to keep the kids more often while she attended school, and I thought that is great, I get to spend more time with my kids. Please keep in mind I have no problem paying child support I have always finacial supported my kids. October 2005 she started working full time as a nurse. By now she might see the kids 1 or 2 days a week, usally sunday morning and wed. night for church. I started ducumenting how much time they spend with me and how much time they spend with there mother. I know TN laws recently changed that child support is based on both parents income and how much time they spend with each parent. My kids are spending most of there time with me now, I dont want to rock the boat with her, because I enjoy all the extra time with my kids. She could cut me off from them and go back to every other weekend if I try to re-adjust child support. Now she is thinking of moving out of state, her husband has a new job offer. What can I do to stop her from moving my kids out of the state of TN, it appears that she would be in violation of my visitation. The kids seem excided about moving, they are not thinking about what it will be like after the move has been made. There is no family or friends. Please advise

Jeff
 

[msme]

Hire a kickass fathers rights lawyer & get custody of your kids. If you have been their main caregiver for 18 months & you have documented it, the courts should uphold your request. Make sure your lawyer is a Board Certified Family Law & Custody Specialist.

You talk about being afraid to lose what you have but you also state that she is planning to just rip them away from you & move them to a new state. You must ask yourself what you have to gain if you do nothing. It seems to me that is just what you have to gain, "NOTHING." but you have an awful lot to lose.

good luck & God bless.
You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

[Jeff2121]

I only have documantation from Nov. 2005 up till now, should that be enough? I am going to contact a lawyer this week about this issue.  It will be that same lawyer that my brother hired to get custody of his little girl.  I wonder if we do go to court if it will be in the same county as the divorce?  I still live here but she lives in the next county over.


Jeff

[leon clugston]

any documentation is bettter than none, and besides you have her putting the kids w/ you for longer periods of times, so she can't use the old (hes not good or he's a bad parent) love it when they set themselves up. Her moving or contemplating to move is a change in circumstances, and in most states automaticaly warrants a custody hearing, changes in locations, house, friends, schools it all affects the well being of a child and has to be factored.