ONE SMALL VICTORY

[formykids]

Hi all, heres a little background,i found out 2 days before thanksgiving my wife was cheating on me and in the process of filing for divorce.I moved out immediately and filed,beating her to the punch by one day.Now theres allegations of drug abuse,verbal abuse,mental cruelty,not supporting my family,abandonment and anything else they can come up with.Ive been allowed to see my daughter 2 times in 6 weeks,i finally found out 2 weeks ago until theres restraing orders and a temporary hearing(theres none in place as of yet)  they cant stop me from getting her from school.So for the last 2 weeks thats what ive done,picking her up from school,keeping her with me,taking her to school the next day.                                                                                                                Today i dropped her at cheerleading and her mother grabbed her,told her she was taking her,and had her bawling,she kept saying,im sorry mom but i wanna be with my dad,i told her to go into her class,id be there when she was done,mother went in too,assuming id go in and make a scene in front of her friends,instead i called the sheriff,2 cruisers came and told my wife the little girl (shes 8) could go with whoever she wanted until theres orders(temp. orders hearing on wed,feb 2nd,wish me luck)so me and my daughter left my wife arguing with the deputy about letting her go with me,i realize this is one small battle in this war,but damn it felt good,gives me a little hope,if you couldve seen her face,man was she pi&&ed,she works second shift and would rather see my kids with a sitter than me,no doubt for the child support,hopefully ive done things right this time and will have half a chance,the house,cars and land mean nothing to me,but my kids,now thats a whole different story,id fight the world to protect them.Good luck to all in similar situations,remember never quit fighting,your kids deserve to have 2 parents in their life

[MYSONSDAD]

Winning the small victories is a plus, but keep the overall picture in mind.

Document everything and keep logs on what is taking place.

Make sure you work on a papertrail you can use in court. Get those police reports, phone records, doctors records.

Work on a filing system that is easy to follow and easy for the judge to read. The more organized you are, the better.

Do the homework and educate yourself. It is a long road with many obstacals. Keep your nose clean and take the high road...

"Children learn what they live"

[rainbow1]

If the BM is working 2nd shift and you work 1st shift you should be able to get primary placement. What state do you live in?

[formykids]

OHIO,thats what im hoping for,there is a third child in this too,a 15 yr old boy,hes acting as the man of the house,even going so far as to open the bathroom door on my daughter when she tries to sneak a call to me,they wont allow her to call,hes been the babysitter until i took her,he'll have nothing to do with me now (he begged me to wait to leave until he was 18,but the situation was getting worse and i had to go),i make him follow rules and with mom he does what he wants,walking town after school at 3 until ex's parents took him home at 7,then bossing the kids,(11 yr old came to stay with me 6 weeks ago and wants nothing to do with them,8 yr olds been here 2 weeks and begs me not to send her back)theyve even punished the 8 yr old for calling me,took away her slumber party for her birthday,putting her to bed at 7:30,its crazy,when my daughter came her teeth would bleed when she brushed them the first few nights,she said no one makes her brush them there and she cant remember to,her babysitter is the cartoon channel while the 15 yr old plays in his room on the computer,his grades have suffered since this started because he stays up to report to his mom when she gets in at midnight then gets up at 6 to go to school,but his mothers convinced him this is all my fault and he wont even talk to me unless he wants something,once to ask for a pool table from my mom and dads old house,the other time to ask for my plow to my a.t.v.,he didnt get either,ive invited him swimming with me and the other kids but he refuses,usually being quite rude about it,they wont even let the kids in to get clothes,oh well ,hopefully itll all work out,,,,MYSONSDAD thanks for the advice,i started documenting all the crap as soon as i moved out,ive set up counselors through their schools to try and help them deal with this,,,good luck to all,,,

[formykids]

thanks for the advice,,,its hard to take the high road sometimes when youre accused of being a lowlife,,,but i know ive got too,,no matter what

[Adam L.]

Good luck, stay on the up and up. Ohio allowes joint custody; even if one parent says no. And the child preferences is considered. Dont let the court pull you down. We need to get the courts to here us fathers. Were american taxs payers so the do work for us in a way, and there is a lot more father than court, we to keep voting and yelling for our rights.

[ksmomof2girls]

Do you have 3 biological kids or  just the 2 younger ones?


Good luck.......why not go for 50/50?

[formykids]

all 3 children are mine,as to 50/50 i doubt it would work,in the 2 months weve been seperated shes allowed me to see the little girl 2 days when she needed a babysitter,that shows me she has no desire to cooperate,to her its all about control,the 2 younger children also dont want to be with her,they were denied seeing me or being allowed to call me,the older brother and the mother have taken the phone out of their hands and hung up on me when i was talking to the children,that cant be in their best interest,if there was anyway it could work id go for it,but i cant take the chance of her messing these kids minds up,theyre my world,and i wont let them be her pawns