NBC's Today Show looking for parent's input

[Hawkeye]

NBC Today Show looking for parent's input - Civil Right to be a parent?
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[We'd encourage you to go to the link below and make the point of
your parenting issue -- I've been denied the right to be a EQUAL
parent to my own children.  Isn't it time we thought about
protecting Family Rights in the United States? - Ed.]

The Today show has an upcoming month long show on parenting tips and
concerns and is excepting emails about thoughts, worries, wisdoms on
parenting.  I thought it might be interesting for non custodial
parents to write in and see if they will listen.  Basically the
concerns would be how do you raise your children when you don't get
to see them very much or how to deal with your children when the
other parent is slowing alienating your child away from you.  I
think if enough people wrote to them they might listen especially
since divorce is one of the biggest problems today and many children
are facing it.  Here is the link to send your questions, concerns,
etc.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6769709/

[joni]

you're absolutely right.  the family court bias of sole custody to a mother is going to be an epidemic of hurt and issues in our children's generation.

[MYSONSDAD]

"Children Learn what they Live"

[joni]

this is what I submitted to MSNBC

1) The mandatory legal presumption of joint legal custody in the event of divorce.

2) The mandatory legal presumption of shared parenting in divorce agreements.

3) The mandatory legal presumption of 50/50 physical custody of children in divorce agreements.

4) World Peace

5) Violence in Our Schools

There's an epidemic in this country.  The bitterness of divorce is LEGALLY excluding fathers from the day to day lives of their children.  Currently, there's a federal class action law suit in over 26 states requiring that legal joint custody be the starting point in a divorce preceeding.  Unless a parent is proven to be legally unfit, there has to be an award of joint legal custody.

Currently, most states have the 'presumption' of joint legal custody.  The judges need only to consider this.  If one parent objects to the joint legal custody arrangement, usually with the mother doing the objecting, in 86% of the cases, the judge awards sole legal custody to the mother amidst false allegations of domestic violence and other smoke and mirrors.  Fathers are effectively reduced to the rold of paying visitors in their childrens' lives, 4-6 days per month.

For more information and background for your story, go to these web sites:

httP://www.hisside.com
http://www.glennsacks.com/us_supreme_court.htm
http://www.acfc.org
http://www.amnesty-4-families.com/
http://www.dadsofmichigan.org
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/bias_essay.htm

[MYSONSDAD]

I sent one in and am passing this along to everyone I know. Maybe an onslaught of letters will wake someone up...

Now to hit Dick, might take me all day on that one.

"Children learn what they live"

[c_alexander]

I wrote them. I believe that if everyone in the ommunity took the time to write them they might see that we are serious and maybe even do a story on us. At the very least a mention would be nice.

Also wanted everyone to know that I was approached by a report for the Denver Post one Mrs. Elizabeth Aguilera  :(a link to some of her stories is here) http://www.denverpost.com/Stories/0,1413,36%257E25130%257E,00.html?search=true

e-mailed me stating that she wanted to do a story on me and our cause. I wrote her a long detailed e-mail answering some of the questioned she posed to me and describing what I was trying to do any everything and  have not heard back. I think that it would be a fantastic opportunity if this reporter were to actually do the story. I did make mention to her of the Krights show tonight, perhaps she is going to listen to it. That would be great.

Anyway, keep on trucking my friends. We are making some progress I think.

Sincerely,
Chris Alexanderr

[c_alexander]

I told dick that if he wanted to really help the kids he should do a show deicated to bringing them together not turning the dads into paychecks.

Seriuosly thinking about this jsut how much could that show get sued if they are using the states information regarding child supoport arrears and the states information is incorrect? Perhaps the ONLY way to be down with the "Deadbeat Dad" myth is to start sueing those who use it and persue it.

Just a thought

[Hawkeye]

#1 Trying to deal with an alienating, other parent. One who defies court orders, judges/lawyers/social workers who don't really care and a system that is biased and blatently anti-father.  

[Kent]

In my opinion it is imperative that, especially with shared physical custody, one parent has sole legal custody.

Where two parents divorced, there will always be disagreements over legal issues; medical issues and treatment, educational decisions, etc. etc.
With joint legal custody, both parents have to agree to come to a decision. Or each parent can inform school or doctor of one decision, and 5 minutes later the other parent will inform of the opposite. It is a breeding ground for conflict.

Determination who gets sole legal custody is a difficult issue, and could be determined by an evaluation by a psychologist PhD.

Kent!

[MYSONSDAD]

That is why additional wording in Parenting Plans are so crutial. You need a clause in there to mediate disagreements.

>evaluation by a psychologist PhD.<

Sorry, they are part of the problem.

If 50/50 were in place, from the legal standpoint,  from the beginning between two fit parents, it would alleviate conflict. Both parents, in court, on equal ground.