What Are We to Do

[Jersey1951]

My Bf has a wicked ex. She uses the kids, anlienates them from their Dad. Every visit is a huge drama trauma. The younger one is hostile, the older one is a player. It takes about three or four days to get them to be normal only   to have it undone when they get back to thier home. She keeps taking him to court to get more money which he does not have. They are constantly saying hateful things. It seems to me that they are suffering from parental alienation. The problem is that woman has sucked us dry and there is no more money to fight her, or at least  get her to be fair and put her kid's needs above her grudge. Is ther any way we can go to court with out a attorney? Terri

[joni]

Realistically....no.  Save your money for a fight you can win...and you will have your day.....some day.

As far as your scenario, welcome to our community.  We are all suffering from this in our lives.  You will find much support and compassion here to get you through this.  People who will listen, care and share with you.

Be consistent with these kids.  Have you and your BF be stellar role models for them.  When they come to your house, they will see love, respect and tolerance.  They'll get it some day.

[flewwellin]

My husband and I had to do everything without a lawyer.  His child support money was what paid for hers.  So in essence we paid for the attorney that made it possible to move out of state with his kids.  so yeah it can be done but I wouldn't advice it.  you tend to (for the lack of a better word) get screwed royally.  

[FL_48603]

>The problem is that woman has sucked us dry and there is no more money to fight her, or at least  get her to be fair and put her kid's
needs above her grudge. Is ther any way we can go to court with out a attorney? Terri<

Been there, Done that.  The most common tactic is to try to:

A.) Break your back financially; and:
B.) Keep you emotinally whipped.

I fought for and won JOINT CUSTODY against a horrible CABAL of "Good-Ol-Boys" up in these yonder parts.  All the while I was In Pro Per (well not exactly THE WHOLE TIME).

Not to give *legal advice*, but if it were me (and it has been on countless ocassions) I would research first the case law governing your matter online FindLaw.com is a good resource.  Look up things like Child Custody, Best Interest of Child,  Join Custody - then find fillable PDF forms online by putting Fillable Family Law Court Forms into your web browser's search engine and then fill them out and file and serve them.

Then, at the very last second, find a a lawyer who will sub in on a "special appearance" for you the day of the hearing.

Then just sit back and enjoy the look on the other party's face as you lawyer walks up and speaks on your behalf. IT will be PRICELESS, becuase their lawyer was just getting ready to perfomr sugeory on your argument with a rusy knife - BUT NOW IT'S ALL Mr. and Ms. this and Mr. and Ms. that.

Deal with the finances by contacting Financial Solutions Group at:
877.365.9500 or [email protected].