things i left out!

[williammw]

Oh YES most defenitly i want full or even primary residents for her,
i was getting her one full week per month, now that she has started kindergarden i get her every other weekend, mother has changed pre-schools 3X's this year, w/o my involvement, according to my decree I'm to be notified w/in 24 hours of any changes that have to do with her,
as u guys might guess she does non of that, doesn't think she has to.
I've begged and pleded w/ her to give me an insurence card for her she wont give me one,i offered health ins. to her for syd, but she denied UNION ins. that is documented. everything she says, does ,dosn't do, what syd tells me all of it is documented,and she does goto the hospital every time i see the rash the mother is billed directly for the visits (LMFAO) sorry i had to on that one thats the only way i get thru it all sometimes.

     i contacted my layer about 2 weeks ago and he said" i need pictures of the dirty house and the filth she lives in,and i would have a better chance of getting her if i waited till like 1st or 2nd grade and observe her grades , cuz if she's doing bad in school i have a better chance"
all and all i think thats crap it would really be to late to do something and plus it would make me out to be a bad dad if i dont do nething now i think

ive called DFS on her about this stuff and they think im just an angry father seeking revenge on  my"x"   i no im not but i kinda feel alone,and getting stronger by the day, its a hell of a struggle you all know that lol

(chuga chuga i think i can i think i can)

sorry for the rambling on i really don't talk to many ppl out side my home.   thanks for the replies.

[MYSONSDAD]

I hope like hell, you have been documenting everything.

What I am having a BIG problem with, is you have been taking her to the hospital and they have done nothing. There must be some paperwork you sign when you bring her in. You should get a copy of that. You could supeana  for the childs medical records. If this is a constant problem, the judge should be very concerned on what the hell is going on.

Did the doctors say what is causing this rash? Can you take her privately to another Pediatrician and get some results. I can't imagine the hospital did not see a red flag here.

As far as the changing pre school 3x's, she is showing herself to be unstable, but with it being pre school, it will be overlooked. Do you have documentation of her constant moves? This might be up for contempt if she is not complying with a CO.

If I were in your shoes, I would get a damned good PI on this. Have a third party document what the hell is going on. They might even be able to get pictures of the inside of the house. My PI did it and then some.
PI's are considered professional witnesses. Make sure they tape and take pictures, so you have alot of back up proof.

If you should go with a PI, spend a few extra bucks and investigate this so called boyfriend. Most States have a sex offenders site, you can check that yourself. You can also go down to the courthouse on their public computer and run this guys name. See what pops up.

And yes, you can! Just keep going, something will break. Once this child is in school, the teachers are required by law to turn in any abuse or neglect they suspect.

[Kitty C.]

.....Haven't been able to get on much lately.

I've read the previous posts, as well as this one.  I agree, you need to take her IMMEDIATELY to a hospital after picking her up.  I don't know what area you live in, but if it's a fairly large, metro area, make DAMN sure it's a terciary facility (meaning they have ANY specialist on call and immed. available 24/7).  This type of facility will have a better understanding of child abuse and neglect, their ER docs are better trained at picking up the signs.  And even if you don't have that kind of facility, do NOT take no for an answer from the docs who treat her.  Tell them to look at ALL the previous reports, find the pattern, INSIST on them taking cultures, and demand they take action.  Doctors put their pants on one leg at a time just like we do...don't be intimidated by them.

What you do NOT want to do is to continue treating her yourself.  You are laying yourself WIDE open to sexual abuse charges yourself.

In the meantime, go back to the hospital where she was previously treated and get copies of her previous visits.  Most notably, the doctor's handwritten or transcribed notes.  You will have to pay for them, but if you have them in hand if you take her to a better facility, they will not only see that something is very wrong, but there is a PATTERN, probably the second most common thing they look for.  ALL healthcare professionals are required by law to be mandatory reporters.  If they even THINK that there's a possibility of abuse or neglect going on, they MUST report it.  Stiffer laws have been passed in recent years that can even penalize MR's if they don't report.

Above all, do NOT give up in finding treatment for her.  If this happens often enough, or left treated long enough, it could cause possible permanent damage to her.  Who knows what else may be breeding in those infections and it can migrate to more sensitive and even internal areas.  Having her grow up sterile cannot be ruled out, either.  You are her only advocate, Dad.  Don't give up on this!

[dontunderstand]

It is a long hard road full of "NO'S" and "We can't help you"  but I can only tell you to PURSUE IT again and again!  Get a paper trail!  Do not give up!  and YOU ARE NOT ALONE!