My daughter is in Indiana and I am in Kansas

[sarasdaddy282000]

Hi,
It has been quite awhile since I have posted in SPARC.

My daughter is now 6 yrs old and the last time I was with her was October 17th 2001.

Her BM (biological mother) and I never married and never went to court to decide custody or child support.  The BM has been moving and staying out of touch hoping I will simply, "move on" (her words).  The closest thing to contact I have had is catching her (the BM) in a Yahoo Chat room, which aires all your "dirty laundry" for many strangers to hear.  When I try to call her on the phone, she never answers or simply hangs up.  Now, apparently she has been living with a man for almost 3 yrs and they claim that he adopted my daughter.  I have been making every effort to get and stay in touch with my daughter to no avail.  I am not rich, I barely get by on what I make, living paycheck to paycheck.  Am I doomed to never seeing my daughter again?
Do I finally simply give up, let them have Sara, and move on with my life?
If they are not lying to me, I know their address and phone number in Gary Indiana.  This has been an ongoing nightmare since the day I left Michigan, where we lived at the time.  I currently live in Wichita Kansas, that's several hundred miles away.  My daughter's BM holds all the cards.  All I have is a Paternity Affidavit from Ohio where our daughter was born, I was listed on our daughters birth certificate, which I have a copy of, and I have a copy of her Social Security Card, with her name on it, with my last name.  Am I doomed or is there still some hope?  Thank you for listening.

[futureuselesseater]

Do you pay child support?

[sarasdaddy282000]

No, I do not paid child support, many attempts but all have been returned

[MYSONSDAD]

I remember you well and often wondered if you found your daughter.

All the years trying to locate her, you met your first goal. What the BM did was child concealment.

I would post to Soc. Follow his mandated guidelines.

Congrats on locating your daughter. You have had a long road to travel.

[FatherTime]

Hi Again,

I was wondering how you were doing.  

Never give up.  It's worth it.  

Petition for visitation in Gary, Indiana.  Have her served papers at the address.  You may have to establish parentage first.

http://www.in.gov/judiciary/selfservice/forms/divorce_children.html

http://www.in.gov/judiciary/selfservice/lawyers.html

http://www.in.gov/judiciary/rules/

So.... How have YOU been?  Taking care of yourself?

Thanks,