The effect of alienation on children

[annemichellesdad]

For the first several years of our separation, our daughter did very well. Her mother and I co-parented roughly 50-50, and my daughter was able to enjoy a healthy relationship with both her mother and her father.

Eventually, however, her mother began experiencing tremendous anxieties and frustrations over not be re-married; this, had been adamant to do. One day, she announced that she would not be returning our child to me for regular parenting time... no reason given, but I understood... she was blaming ME for being unmarried.

Because we had co-parented voluntarily, we had no court order. (Whenever I recommended we have one drawn up, I would see her getting nervous. My silence on the issue helped keep the peace, at least for three years.)

I won't get into any more legal particulars right now, and such particulars are not the point of this thread. I just wanted to share with you real evidence as the how the alienation of one a child's parents can profoundly affect them. These three messages were left on my answering machine by my daughter, six years old, about four months after being TOTALLY deprived of her father by her mother. When I heard these messages, I totally collapsed on the floor in anguish over my child.

http://michaelphoto.net/phone/phone01.mp3

http://michaelphoto.net/phone/phone02.mp3

http://michaelphoto.net/phone/phone03.mp3

[FatherTime]

It was hard to listen to that.  I feel for you.  Hug her for me once too when you see her again.  She needs you, never give up.