Update

[Stepmom0418]

Sorry it took so long to get back in here and give an update. DH and I are soooooooo glad that the trial is over. It seemed to go well although we had one of those judges that we VERY hard to read. He did ask alot of questions at the end of DH's testimony as well as at the end of mine. He asked both of us what we had material wise, meaning clothing and beds toys and ect, for SS. Of course we both answered that he has his own toys as well as his own bed and his own clothes although he and his brother prefer to share EVERYTHING! He asked how big our home is and also about DH and I's income and if we expected any changes in income.

BM told lie after lie after lie on the stand and in discovery and she was called on each lie and we had solid documents to proove each lie. During her testimony she told 3 very diffrent stories. She told her attorney 1 story, DH attorney another and the judge a totally diffrent story. Dh said that there was several times that he seen the judge roll his eyes during her testimony.

Dh attorneys we awesome and on top of all her lies. They knew the case VERY well. BM's attorney on the other hand couldnt keep my name and BM's name straight, and was not familiar with the case at all. I will after this is over recommend DH attorney to everyone I know.

I thought that BM's attorney would be a tough one on cross but found out that he is an IDIOT! He knew nothing about the case so he didnt have many questions to ask.

DH's brother testified yesterday and BM's attorney asked the following question exactly. I had to pass this along as we felt it was very funny!

How do your wives get along?

DH's brother responded: I am sorry but I only have one wife.

DH said that the whole courtroom was laughing  even the judge.

Of course then after stuttering and being told by the judge to re phrase, BM's attorney rephrased the question and asked how his wife and his brothers wife (me) get along. Of course BM's attorney didnt like the answer DH's brother gave because me and my sister in law get along great and always have.

As for a decision we get to wait. We submitted over 30 exhibits including a 150 page log as well as letters sent certified return reciept, dhs reports on bm, medical records on ss, school reports on both ss and the children that live with dh and i currently and many other things to numerous to mention. Bm's attorney submitted under 5 exhibits that include a certificate that she recieved from ss's head start program that says she is a good mother, (ss's teacher this year was also his headstart teacher and testified that all the parents recieved that certificate regardless of what kind of parent they were it was standard) They also submitted a picture of ss, BM and Bm's bf. BM testified that her BF gave up his parental rights to his child because he felt that the child would be better off without him in her life. She was asked on Wednesday where ss was at currently. (remember it is a school day and he should have been in school) BM said, " I really dont know where he is at today I think he might be with my grandmother but I am not sure." No one liked her answer even the court recorders mouth dropped to the floor!

Anyways the judges said he wanted to go over the exhibits and he would forward his order to both attorneys. DH's attorney was saying wednesday that they were sure we got the contempts prooved but they werent sure on the custody issue. Then on Thursday DH attorneys decided that they were totally confused as to what the judge would rule after my testimony and DH's brothers testimony plus all the questions the judge was asking seemed to be in regards to if custody should change so .................we wait for a decision.

Dh and I want to thank each and everyone of you that have ever offered any advise or suggestions or support! You all mean alot to us and dont worry we will still be here in this community regardless of what the judges decision is because we are still going to need you all we are sure that just because trial is over doesnt mean BM is done pulling her stunts!

Again thank you and please continue to pray that the judge sees the whole picture and makes the BEST decision for SS!!

[onedaddy]

Well congratulations, after hearing that I'm sure you will walk away with more than you started with.

I truely believe this is the year pf the children.  You might think I'm crazy but Psychic Sylvia Brown predicted this year that "Father's will get the Lion's share of custody".

Keep us posted!

[Stepmom0418]

I dont think you are crazy!! I love Sylvia Brown!! I missed that prediction though, thank you for sharing it with me! (gives me even more hope)

I think with all that happened and all the evidence and testimonys DH has a chance but like I said its up to the judge! I will let you all know as soon as we know something!

[MYSONSDAD]

WOW! Things sound really good in your favor. Keep us posted. My prayers and good thoughts are with you...

That was a good funny on your BIL's part, good one
 
"Children learn what they live"

[Stepmom0418]

I hope the judge sees things the way we all do! We only want the best for SS!

I am pulling my hair out today............waiting for an answer! I keep wondering as the days go by...........Is longer better or is longer worse??

Any comments?

[MYSONSDAD]

I would say longer, he has alot of material to go thru. But that might be what pulls the whole story together.

I will keep my fingers crossed!
 
"Children learn what they live"