Father in real trouble of losing everything, Plz help

[Doomsday]

First of all, my wife drink quite a lot and after a while had a friend move back in to state after 5 years away. So we started hanging out with him and since wife didn't like me having friends, decided to get drunk one night fall down stair and break through a door. When I got home police were called and she claimed domestic abuse. I got taken to jail forced to move out of my home, case was dropped for lack of evidence.

Locked were changed and I can't see my child unless wife is there. I was the primary care giver during our child's first 8 years. My child's innocents' was lost do to my wife's drinking. And the father of the child who did this is back in my child's life again? I don't have a job because of economics times and am looking for anything I can get my hands on to find work. I was just informed that wife had talked to lawyer and state requires Mediation before filing.

I need to know where I stand and how to protect my rights and get to see my child as I should. Do I need to file first before I can see my child? Can someone give my some kind of direction as to were to start to get me out of this whole?

Please any help..Please.

[Gestalt]

Is there another father to this child? Who is the legal father?

If you are not the legal father for the child you do not have many (or any) rights to see the child, some states - not sure about yours- do have statutes addressing third party visitation when that party has acted as the parent and is the "psychological parent" to the child- but for you to fight that battle- especially if mom (and dad) object will cost a lot of money or a lot of time and frustration educating yourself and proceeding pro se.

[Doomsday]

I am the biological father and don't want my wife and her drinking buddies child molesting son to have contact with my child, or his father for that matter. And do to the false accusation about domestic abuse just to get me out of the way. Because she was mad that I had a friend after 8 years of not having any is way low.
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My routine was to get up at 4:50am go to work and get off in time to pick up our child from school. I'd wash dishes, clean cloths, prepare meals and do most of the cleaning of the home and shopping. And while wife worked nights, because of better money? (had to work night is what I was told). But it was to hang out with her friends and go drinking after work every night and get home at about 1-2am.  But I got to spend a lot of time with our child, and I loved every minute of it.
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But to get the boot just because I decided to have a friend and start to meet people, I don't think it's fair or right. Now I have to find a lawyer to fight to be able to see my child and then to lose the family home to my soon to be ex-wife doesn't seem right to me.
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And now that the domestic abuse is dropped and I have been considered moved out of the residents. I can't come back in without be charged with burglary for attempting to get back in to my own house. Which was a low tactic to begin with? And this is just the beginning of what life may be like.
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I don't want my child to get touched by this persons son. The police were involved when  my childs' innocents was lost. And to try and slip this person back in to my child life and lose everything on top of it, is just to much.
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So that is why I'm asking for help or any direction to take to try and protect my child from this and to get my house back if at all possible.

[Gestalt]

If your son is being exposed to someone who has been proved to have abused him, go file an emergency motion for custody.