LAST NAME PROBLEMS IN NEW JERSEY

[JOHN JOHN]

I AM A 39 YEAR OLD MALE WITH A SOON TO BE 10 YEAR OLD SON I HAVE BEEN ACTIVE IN HIS LIFE SINCE HE WAS 8MONTHS OLD BUT I CAN NOT CONVINCE THE MOTHER TO GIVE HIM MY LAST NAME....SHE JUST SAYS WHENEVER I ASK HER "WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT" AND I TELL HER IF IT ISNT SO IMPORTANT TO YOU THEN LET ME CHANGE MY SONS LAST NAME TO MINE AND OF CORSE PAY AS WELL...BUT IF YOUR READING THIS POST YOU WILL PROBABLY GUESS THAT THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS NO...
FOR THE FIRST 7 YEARS WE HAD A VERBAL AGREEMENT OF $200 A MONTH BUT I HAD MY SON 6 DAYS A WEEK FROM 3PM TO 8PM AND EVERY OTHER WEEKEND AND PROVIDED WHATEVER HE NEEDED IN CLOTHES/DOCTOR BILLS/FOOD THEN THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD(WE WERE NEVER MARRIED)HAD GOT MARRIED AND STARTED A FAMILY OF HER OWN HAVING A NEWBORN BABY...THEN THEY BOUGHT A HOUSE AND THE NEXT THING YEP YOU GUESSED IT I WAS SUMMONED INTO COURT FOR MORE MONEY...HEY I HAD NO PROBLEM WITH THAT BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT I NEEDED TO PAY MORE THAN I WAS PAYIN ANYWAY SO GUESS WHAT HAPPENED I MISSED THE COURT DATE AND THE JUDGE ENTERED A DEFAULT JUDGEMENT OF $150 A WEEK

SO I FILES FOR A RE HEARING WHICH WAS GRANTED AND IT WAS SETTLED ON $60 A WEEK FOR SUPPORT PLUS $25 A WEEK FOR A CATHOLIC SCHOOL....THAT WAS MARCH OF 2002 WELL 3 MONTHS LATER THE MOTHER OF MY SON WHO MAKES ALL THE DECISIONS CONCERNING MY SON WITH OUT EVER ASKING ME DICIDED TO TAKE HIM OUT OF CATHOLIC SCHOOL AND INTO PUBLIC SCHOOL....NOW I DIDNT KNOW I COULD FILE FOR A REDUCTION OF THE $25 A WEEK SO WE VERBALY AGREED TO NOT MAKE AND BONES ABOUT THE $25 SO 2 YEARS LATER IM STILL ASKING ABOUT THE LAST NAME TO BE CHANGED AND AN ARGUEMENT BREAKES OUT THAT I AM APROX $2400 BEHIND IN SUPPORT...NOW REMEMBER ALMOST 2 YEARS OR ABOUT 88 WEEKS @ $25 IS $2200 SO REALLY IM NOT BEHING AT ALL BUT GUESS WHO WANTS A WARRENT ISSUED FOR MY ARREST...WELL I HAVE A COUT DATE FOR LATE IN MARCH OF THIS YEAR HOPING TO GET THE $25 FOR THE LAST 88 WEEKS REMOVED SO I DONT LOOK LIKE A DEAD BEAT DAD AS SHE LIKE TO CALL ME...

NOW THAT YOU HAVE A LITTLE TASTE OF MY SITUATION IS THER ANY CHANCE FOR ME TO GET MY SONS NAME CHANGED EVEN IF THE MOTHER DOES NOT WANT IT CHANGED??

PLEASE LET ME KNOW AND DONT BE OFFENDED BY MY POOR SPELLING

:)