NEED SOME OPINIONS HERE

[maymee]

Ok, so my son's father showed up after almost a year with no contact asking to see our son.  So we spent a few hours at the park and my son (whos only 3) thought it was the greatest thing.  So now he wants to start seeing him once for a few hours every Tuesday.  He lives 2 hours away and is only in our neighborhood on Tuesdays.  I have no problem with these visits and am willing to do as much as possible to make sure our son has a clear schedule for these visits.  But I want these visits to be supervised because it's been so long since my ex has come around.  He's been paying his child support for the past 4 months now so I have a feeling he is actually here to stay.  I think that 3 months of visits supervised by me is acceptable.  It comes out to be 12 visits and I think that would be a good amount of time for our son to get used to his father again.  Our court order states that he is to have reasonable parenting time.  Obviously this means that if we agree to every Tuesday, then it's ok.  But I would like to have it in our court order so that there are no questions about it.  I would also like to have it ordered that the first 3 months are to be supervised (which he has agreed to) and then I would like it reviewed and a new order entered so that he can see him without supervision and possibly work up to keeping him on weekends and stuff like that.  Now some say that I shouldn't put anything in the order and let us work it out ourselves, but I would prefer it be in the order because he has walked away several times before this and then pops up when he decides he's ready to be daddy for a while.  I know that if we have a specific schedule then if he decides to walk away again, I can take any steps to keep him from playing pop up and screwing with our sons head.  Any suggestions here???? Also, how would I word it for a court order???

Thanks so much.

[Peanutsdad]

Be prepared to spend some cash to change the CO. Unfortunately, no there really isnt anything you can do in retaliation if he decides to chump out and not be around.





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[MixedBag]

I too say that you two should just "work it out" particularly if he's going along with you being there to supervise even if the court order doesn't say anything.

Heck, by the time you get into court, spend the dollars, those three months will have passed by.