Ex-Wife won't let me see my daughter for Christmas-- Please help!!

[jtpaladin]

Guys, please give me some advice.

My ex-wife has decided that she won't let me have my daughter for the court-ordered Christmas vacation period. My daughter lives with my ex-wife in MN and I live in CA. I only see my daughter twice a year and this really hurts to not see her for Christmas. Can anyone please tell me what actions I should take? Thank you.

[jilly]

If you have a court order that states that this is your year for Christmas and your ex is telling you she's denying you your court ordered time with your daughter you need to:


1)  Send her a letter (certified mail return receipt requested) that you are planning on following the court order that states you are to have daughter for Christmas this year. (There is a letter under "Resources" on this site that you can use as an example or use for yourself). Also state in the letter that if she denies your court ordered time with your daughter at Christmas that you will she will be in contempt.

2)  If your ex doesn't follow the court order then file a contempt charge against her.

Just out of curiousity:  why has your ex "decided" she's not going to let you have your daughter for the court ordered Christmas vacation?  Do you pay for the travel arrangements for your daughter or do you and the ex split the cost?  Do you have an attorney and, if so, have you made your attorney aware of your exs "decision"?

[joni]

your Ex has notified you that she's not following the court order.  you need to bring a court motion as soon as possible.  courts are busy this time of year with other NCP's in for the same reason....Christmas visitation.

[hhutchings]

This is the first time I have been here, but we are dealing with a similar issue.  The ex is denying visitation for Christmas.  We are supposed to have the kids (12yo boy & 10yo girl) alternating major holidays, but we have not gotten them for a holiday since Memorial Day.  We are also supposed to have them alternating weekends and have not had them for over 6 weeks and it is not the first time.  We are filing for an emergency Show Cause hearing, as I write this, through our lawyer.  Hopefully, it will find her in contempt and will make her realize that she needs to stop playing games.  All we want is to be able to see the kids on the dates that we are supposed to.  I don't understand why many NCP's feel that they have the right to dictate and digress from a court order.  I wish you luck!