Custody Battle???

[raiderman76]

I am in the process of getting my son out of his mother's house. I have been taking him to therapy and some of the things he said to the therapist were disturbing. The therapist asked me if the police had ever been to his mother's house, I said I wouldn't know. Anyways, I did some investigating on my own and was able to look up any police responses to her house, needless to say, I found what I was looking for, and also the reports pretty much back up what my son had said in therapy. Arguing amongst his mother and stepfather, suicide threat by his mother, she is being seen for depression, there were an incident with guns in one of the reports. My next question is what should my next step be? I am awaiting for the investigation being done by CPS, the police reports are my evidence, the therapist saw the police reports and reported the same to CPS. What are my chances of getting sole custody of my son and putting his mother on supervised visitation? With the suicide threats, battling depression and the fighting between the parents I would think I have a good chance,. especially with all this documented on police reports.....

[mandi]

My husband is going through almost the same thing, I think that the only thing is about the gun and suicide.  But who's to say we just haven't found out about that, yet.  My SD is only 4 years old and she is already telling us things that go on in the house and what happens when it is my husband's weekend and the BM's boyfriend and BM get into a big fight and things are broken and mommy is crying, is what SD has told us.  I mean, to gt this info, I asked her if the BM's boyfriend was mean to her and told me that he was not but he is to mommy and hten told me this info.  My husband is getting out of the Navy and we are moving back to where is daughter lives so that we can be able to do more about all of this, he has been told that he would have a better chance of getting what he wanted not being in the Military because even with what happens in the BM"s house, in the eyes of the court it would be unfair to the BM if we were moving around all the time and it would interfer with the BM's visitation rights.  

But as for your question, in my eyes, you have a chance of at least getting to be the custodial parent, if not getting full custody.  But others would probably not agree, because to some these things are only minor, but to me, what your sona nd my SD are being subjected to, is NOT in the best interest of the child.  Good Luck and get me posted on what happens.  I will pray for you and your son.
*~Mandi~*

[Peanutsdad]

My own ex is a diagnosed bipolar, wont take meds, has 3 suicide attempts that Ive uncovered, and has been arrested numerous times for domestic violence. The straw that FINALLY broke the camels back,, was her bf was wanted on a felony sexual assault of a child.

THAT all gained me custody,, it did NOT however,, get her on supervised.

[Brent]

>My next question is
>what should my next step be? I am awaiting for the
>investigation being done by CPS, the police reports are my
>evidence, the therapist saw the police reports and reported
>the same to CPS.

Police reports are good to have- keep documenting everything, especially any interference with your visitation. Make sure the evaluator has copies. One of the first things you'll hear around here is "Document, document, document!". Consider using either the Parenting Time Tracker (PTT) or the OPTIMAL Custody Tracking service (http://www.parentingtime.net). The PTT is good, but the OPTIMAL service is better.

[raiderman76]

How did you find out all this stuff about your ex??? It took them finding out that her BF was wanted on a felony sexual assault of a child to get you custody? I too live in Texas and am hoping it doesn't have to go as far as you did in order to get custody. What took so long for you to get custody? Did you wait it out or had you been fighting all along since the 1st suicide attempt? Did CPS ever get involved? If so what did they do?

[littlebit]

Please tell me how you found out about police responses.  

I know of dates and time when police and DHR went to BM's home.  But I have made inquiries at both departments with no luck at all.  They will not even comment on the reasons, much less give me any documentation of the events.

I am usually quite industrious when it comes to getting my hands on information, but this has been a big dead end for me.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

LittleBit's Dad

[raiderman76]

Where I live it is called a "survey", go to the police station records dept. and have them do a survey of a particular address,( in this case your ex's) they do it by the year over where I live and it costs 8 dollars a year. Once the survey is done, it should have a print up off all the times the police have been to that address, then you should be able to buy the police reports for each incident, 2 dollars where I live. I can't see why you wouldn't be able to have it done, it is like when you go to buy a house or rent an apt. you can get a survey of the particular area to see what kind of crime rate they have for that area.