Not sure what to do

[Kitty C.]

When we sent DS as UAM and he had any lay-overs, he was take to a secure area designated by the airline that was NOT accessible to the public.  He was escorted at all times, as is the policy of every airline designated by the FAA.

As for the BM not showing up to pick her up, personally I would let her do it.  If she wants to bury herself and possibly lose custody just so that she can get her way, then she can face the consequences of her actions.  You might want your atty. to contact her atty. and let them in on what she's told you about that.  And I wouldn't compromise......that's what she's counting on, because she's been able to get away with it before.  Thank God you have her confession on tape.

[mistoffolees]

>Mist -- don't know if your kids ever have to fly, BUT
>
>Most airlines treat kids as unaccompanied minors until the age
>of 12.

Not the #1 airline in the world - American
http://www.aa.com/content/travelInformation/specialAssistance/childrenTraveling.jhtml

Delta is also age 14:
http://www.delta.com/planning_reservations/special_travel_needs/services_for_children/children_traveling_alone/index.jsp


Continental is 14:
http://www.continental.com/web/en-US/content/travel/specialneeds/minors/default.aspx

Northwest is also 14:
http://www.nwa.com/services/onboard/minor/

In every case, they state that unaccompanied minor charge is required to age 14 and the child is still an unaccompanied minor up to age 17 even if you don't pay the fee.


Your statement is clearly wrong.
>
>After that, they are just plain minors travelling on their own
>and a parent may CHOOSE to pay the fee and declare them as
>unaccompanied minors.
>
>You make it sound like they have to pay the fee and treat her
>that way.  

When our daughter was 14, we chose not to pay the fee and she traveled by herself as an adult. For a very young child, I'm sure they won't let the kid board without paying the fee. But when they get close to the cutoff, there appears to be some flexibility.

[awakenlynn]

Hubby called ex back to let her know that she can pick SD up on the 1st instead of her flying back on the 2nd.  She originally agreed that we could make up with 3 extra days this summer.  She is going to renege on that.  Definately.  

She yelled and yelled she wanted SD on the 31st.  She wants to drive back to her parents house and spend the night there.  Hubby kept calmly telling her its the 1st at 1pm or she needed to be at the TX airport on the 2nd.  She then wanted to do pickup on the 2nd at 10am, that way she can blame my husband when she tells the courts that she wasn't able to drive to her parents house, spend the night there and take 2 days to drive home.  It was his fault you know.  We even printed mapquest out for her.  If she left on the 1st to go straight to TX it only added maybe an hour and a half, but that was just too much for her, she says she can't do it.  She can do 15 hours up, but not 16.5.  Not much difference.  If she left on the 1st from IL, she could definately make it to Austin by 3 pm with time left over.

We stayed very calm, very nice and gave her a couple options, but it was all about "her"  not SD, no concern about her at all, it was all about what ex wanted.   I think we got most on tape, but hubby is a walker when he talks and I had to drap him back to the tape player a couple times.  We will let the attorneys secretary transcribe the tapes.

Nothing we could have done would have made her happy.  Ex just wants to have an excuse to stay at her parents house until the weekend and now she has it.  We get no extra time with SD and even lose a day.  We are thinking though that if she comes up on the 1st and says she has not intention to head to TX then we should finish up our time with SD, we would but the stress of those extra hours would be too much.  Hopefully the judge allows the tapes in and he can hear that she agreed to make up the extra time.

Thanks

[MixedBag]

wishing you, DH, and SD the best...

Went to the airport myself yesterday to pick up our son from his flight home.

[awakenlynn]

Well, we followed thru.  We dropped SD off.  Ex isn't heading to TX though like she is supposed to be, she is back in IL with her parents.  of course, its our fault that she isn't halfway home now since we would do what she wanted, so its our fault SD won't be in school Thurs like she is supposed to be and so of course we lost 2 full days of this visit, so ex could do what she wanted.

[MixedBag]

What about making up the two days this summer???

Notify the EX that you/Dad actually the CHILD was shorted two days this Christmas Holiday and that you expect her to allow the CHILD to make up those two days this summer.

[awakenlynn]

Ex already told us that we could make the 2 days, actually she said she would give us 3 days during the summer.  While she may have said it, chances are that she will renege on it, as she has done on previous visits.  Lucki;y we have it on tape this time and we go to court soon and hopefully can get it ordered legally.

Thanks.