Stuck

[highroad]

I am stuck in a state of anxiety.  To ge reassurance about each step I take in my divorce case I speak to several more lawyers and other proffesionalsd and get different answers than I did the first round.  My lawyer has assured me that the couse he is following is the right one and he is very experienced and has a good reputation although he may be loosing his drive due to his age.  I can't seem to let go and trust him to do what it takes to get the results I want.  I am constantly second guessing him.  Maybe I just want a gaurenteed specific outcome?  maybe he is not a match?

PLEASE ADVISE!

[gipsy]

What I learned , I am Much like you and My atty figured it out and said , What you think I have a crystal ball , Go watch a trial , Thats what My atty told me too do and it helped , Because I saw the court  and the judge as really human ,There is a lot of fear and anxiety , Mine was several rental houses  I own and , How much time I get with My son , And how much it costs to get divorced , And Yes , There are diffierent opinions , But generally  I saw that there isn't a lot too it < One thing My atty did that was expensive , was to depose her , Too see what she was going to say , And of course she lied , But told the truth a little , You will be likely to settle out of court , I did not  read in your post about  property, So if there isn't much money involved then , It will boil down to the kids , And that may be where you focus your efforts , Stay cool , This passes ,  It takes a year to get to court here for divorces , So Find a hobby,, not much will start to happen untill you get a case schedule, then . Every one will start sending papers back and forth ,Mostly to find out what you want  As far as property division and A parenting plan . You could occupy time By getting a parenting plan and ,writing down a property division list , And a temporary property division list , It drives you nuts But it will be done , And I am Happy that I am divorced now that it is over !!

[highroad]

Every step seems like life or death.  it is so difficult to trust someone (an atty) with something as precious as my child.  I seem to think if I get the right attourny that I can get what I want.

Are you in the Seattle area and if so can you recommend good atty's and a support group?

THANKS!  

[Peanutsdad]

Ok, first of all, you gotta relax. You wont do your child any good if you wind up in a mental hospital.

The previous poster was right,, find a hobby, relax, take time for you. If you sit and sweat this all the time it will eat you up.

[highroad]

Great advice.  i also had a direct talk with my atty. and we are now on the same page.  big relief.

THANKS!

[gipsy]

there use to be a guy up there called marvin ,     My last addy   [email protected]  .     Also up there is a  legal aid group called Northwest  justice project ,try those , I dated a girl that worked for the NW justice project , they are  low cost Atty's . you may be able to use them, BUT they have a fantastic self help web site . try searching it ,I have some other links , Email me [email protected],I some how have this  Washington law site that keeps sending me up dates , I need to re read some of your posts but that should give some home work , Be pro active