Take away my rights

[maddad]

I would like some help on this issue and any information is appreciated.  Five years ago, ex and I had a child.  We split up when child turned three.  BM moved and I saw child occasionally.  Ex didn't want support at first, but then asked to pay half of child care, which I did when I could.  She got married, and I left them alone, as child was being taken care of and I worked nighs and it was hard to get up early.  I still saw child from time to time and would pay support if ex asked.  My mother tried to see child and would come see me with child.  Now, ex is trying to take away my rights because she said that in our state, if you go over a year with no syupport and 6 months with out visitation, you can terminate rights.  It is true that I haven't, but I did try to call and she wouldn't answer her phone.  And she never took me to court for child support.  I told her I won't let her do this, but now she got a lawyer.  I am married now and have a new house and car, and can give our child a better life than ex and husband.  I think she shou come live with me, but ow can I go about making this possible?  Can they use me being behind on support to another child(it is court ordered) against me?  What do the courts look at?
Please some advice Thanks!

[socrateaser]

Based on your facts, are in the legal position of bending over to pick up soap in the prison shower and Bubba is waiting rather impatiently.

If you sue for paternity, you will receive little if any visitation because you have failed to establish a parent-child relationship. What you will receive is a court order to pay the maximum child support.

My advice is that you consent to legal termination of parental rights, because you will also relieve yourself of the duty of support.

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.