Thanks

[skye]

I appreciate your help

[skye]

This is in the state of Va.

What I need basically is for you to review my wording..If you can, or will.
Thanks a bunch

skye

[socrateaser]

See below.


b) Neither parent shall allow the children to ride in a car unless the driver has a valid driver's license, auto insurance, seat belts and
>child safety seats


d) The children shall not be physically disciplined. (seems a little too restrictive).

e ) Neither parent shall encourage the child to change his
primary residence.

f )Neither parent shall use the child, directly or indirectly,
to gather information about the other parent.

g ) Neither parent shall make derogatory comments about the
other parent,stepparents, or stepsiblings or allow anyone else
to do similarly in the child's presence.
 
h)  Neither parent shall allow or encourage the child to make
derogatory comments about the other parent, stepparents, or
>stepsiblings. (repeated)?

>J  ) Any conference with teachers, counselors, school
>administrators, shall be discussed in advance between the
>parties. Ex-parte meetings shall take place only in urgent circumstances, and the absent parent shall be notified of the meeting and its contents as soon as reasonably possible.

b) Communications between the parents shall be Limited to
issues relating to the children, and to changes to the
parenting plan. (not sure what the point of this is).

[skye]

d) The children shall not be physically disciplined. (seems a little too restrictive).

there have been several abuse issues in the past, until she learns to discipline without abusing we feel it is best, The psycholigist feels physical punishment at this point would make the situations we are dealing with worse, due to the fact that this child has been abused.



g ) Neither parent shall make derogatory comments about the
other parent,stepparents, or stepsiblings or allow anyone else
to do similarly in the child's presence.

***The parents


h) Neither parent shall allow or encourage the child to make
derogatory comments about the other parent, stepparents, or
>stepsiblings. (repeated)?

*** the children being told to say things when they come back from visits


b) Communications between the parents shall be Limited to
issues relating to the children, and to changes to the
parenting plan. (not sure what the point of this is).

Because email is to discuss the kids not ..

there has to be a buisness like manner with communications, its not to throw stones or be uglty to one another this is a very high conflict situation with a lot of anger still on both sides... I will not say she is the only one at fault on this area...but there needs to be communication for the kids about the kids

[socrateaser]

Just realize that you can put whatever you want into a court order, but it's quite another thing to actually enforce personal behavior. Courts don't like to be adult babysitters, so they generally avoid the types of control that you are putting in this parenting plan.

And, if you make the environment too restrictive, you may end up cutting off communication altogether.