Evidence Advice

[Ref]

BM is not confering with DH about medical or school issues as she agreed on and is court ordered from earlier this year. Last week we found out that SD is seeing a therapist and the only what we found out was through a bill in the mail.

I asked for advice on another board and they said that DH would have to prove that this discussion had not taken place. We have letters for BM from the past showing her trying to shut him out...even admitting to not allowing him to see the school records.

1. How do we collect the evidence that she did not confer with him? It seems impossible to prove that a conversation never happened.

Thanks Soc!

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>BM is not confering with DH about medical or school issues as
>she agreed on and is court ordered from earlier this year.
>Last week we found out that SD is seeing a therapist and the
>only what we found out was through a bill in the mail.
>
>I asked for advice on another board and they said that DH
>would have to prove that this discussion had not taken place.
>We have letters for BM from the past showing her trying to
>shut him out...even admitting to not allowing him to see the
>school records.
>
>1. How do we collect the evidence that she did not confer with
>him? It seems impossible to prove that a conversation never
>happened.

Best you can do is to write to the other parent, certified, return receipt, so that you have proof that the letter reached the intended party, and express your dismay over not being confired with prior to the initiation of therapy. What you are hoping for is that the other parent will admit a written response that she didn't discuss the matter with you.

I would copy the therapist on the letter.

Having said all of this, court orders frequently have text ordering that parents confir, but just as frequently, one parent has the final say in whether to obtain healthcare services, so the fact that a conference is ordered, is really of no practical value, since, even though you must confir, the other parent can ignore your advice entirely.

I would need to read the text of your court order to determine if what you are complaining about has any substantive merit.