Big trouble brewing....

[dipper]

Soc,

My ss' burns cost us hundreds the two weeks he was in the hospital.  I have bank records that show we spent $160 in just gas that was put on our bank card in those two weeks - all enroute to the hospital.  While there, we had to eat as we were there for up to 12 hours and overnights each time.  My ss also requested several drinks each day at $1 a pop, he didnt like the hospital food and dh was the one who bought him meals from downstairs.  We also bought him special clothing more suitable for his burns....

When he came last weekend, we had to buy bandages, sun block, aveeno lotion, and benadryl.  My dh had put three containers out at spots to try to help out with these expenses, as we had gotten behind on bills because the money was taken on ss.  Very little money came in - less than $200.  Some money was sent directly to ss in cards, and that money he has been allowed to keep for spending as it was sent to HIM.  

BM brought ss this Friday night, and today we found out that people are saying dh's ex was going around telling people that the money was not to help out, but to purchase ss a four wheeler.   This explains the dirty looks dh and ss got yesterday when they went to collect the money at one area............

So, dh is gone to get the containers and to hang flyers promising that the money was used for finances -and that anything else is simply lies by an unhappy person intent on hurting others.  

Soc, the containers only gave the situation, ss age and the injury, and explained that this is the second time in 9 months that we have experienced a long hospital stay.  There is no mention of asking for help for anything specific.  However, our purpose was to recupe some and buy the things we need now for ss' injury.

I am hoping dh can find someone to absolutely pinpoint bm as being the one to say it was being used for a four wheeler -as if $200 is going to buy that....if he finds someone, then we are going to research how to file for slander...

Soc, last year the hospital added an additional $285 onto dh's bill for a bill for oss when dh and bm were still married.  They also added $100 that occured in Jan. 2004.  DH didnt want to rock the boat by insisting bm pay her share.  

DH is legally responsible for 75% of medical bills.  We are thinking of sending bm the rest of the collected money, explaining where it came from and that there would be no more as people are not willing to give as it is rumored that SHE told lies about the situation. There is every reason to believe that we could have collected enough to cover medical bills had she not spread those lies.  Also, we would explain that she needs to research her rights to suing the families involved as to paying the deductible and copays for the hospital bills.  Explain that we took ss to a shriner's screening and that if accepted, they will pay all future bills and travel.  And .......explain that the burn bills will not be paid for by dh as they could have been avoided had Jason received counseling, discipline, and proper rules.  These are the children he was with when bm called the police on him because he had disappeared, and ss was supposed to be grounded when this incident occurred.  We feel that this incident is due to her negligence in parenting.  

Shouldnt dh be allowed to bill bm for half of the $285 as that occurred prior to separation and her 25% of the $100?



Soc, do we have any legal standing about refusing payment of  the medical bills considering the entire situation?



Is there anything we can file to ask the judge to rule on medical bills before she can take dh to court over them?



Thank you Soc!!

[socrateaser]

>Shouldnt dh be allowed to bill bm for half of the $285 as that
>occurred prior to separation and her 25% of the $100?

 Probably not, as final dissolution judgment would have disposed of any outstanding debts as of the date of entry.

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>Soc, do we have any legal standing about refusing payment of
>the medical bills considering the entire situation?

Why would you give the money to the other parent? That's just rewarding her for doing bad things. If someone has a problem with your possibly creating a fraudulent charity, tell them to take it to the District Attorney's office.

And, if you can prove that the other parent slandered you, and you were actually damaged as a result, then you have a good case for defamation.

>Is there anything we can file to ask the judge to rule on
>medical bills before she can take dh to court over them?

I don't see in your facts any reason where the other parent has a case against your for anything.