Another Daycare dilemma

[MommyX4StepX1]

Another Daycare dilemma
DH is responsible for ½ of reasonable work related daycare expenses for DD.
During the summer BM put DD in a daycare owned by a friend, they are on the same softball team.
This daycare is an actual business not a home daycare.
(During the school year DD went to this same daycare during spring and winter break at no charge.)

During the summer BM stated that it would be $20.00 a day for DD to attend. No charge for the days DD is not there. Which is not the problem. Since DD is with us Thursday and Friday, and two weeks in the summer.
 The receipts that BM gave us are suspicious. There is a receipt for a week of daycare when DD was with us during our two-week parenting time.  DH had called the daycare to give him a summary for the summer.
  When I went to pick up the summary from the daycare, the lady at the desk told me that their computers were down and gave me a written receipt for the total of the summer daycare.
This written receipt amount does not match the receipts BM gave to us.
BM's amount is $100.00 more.

DH had asked BM to give him a summary of the daycare expenses from that daycare when the computers were working again.
BM responded by letter that the daycare does not have summaries and the receipt they gave me was the receipt for the total daycare expenses. BUT BM is still asking for $100.00 more and there is a receipt for days DD was with us and not in daycare.

DH has called the Daycare again to speak with the owner and no one will return his call.
DH is suspicious if BM actually paid $20.00 a day for DD to attend her friends' daycare.

1.   With a licensed daycare, are they suppose to have year to date summaries for tax purposes for the parents?
2.    Can DH request a copy of BM's cancelled checks to verify she paid for daycare?
3.    In your opinion how would you handle this?




Thank You for all your help!!

[socrateaser]

>1.   With a licensed daycare, are they suppose to have year to
>date summaries for tax purposes for the parents?

I doubt that there are any specific statutory requirements, but most computerized accounting systems can produce a summary report easily, so this sounds like a stall.

>2.    Can DH request a copy of BM's cancelled checks to verify
>she paid for daycare?

Not unless litigation ensues.

>3.    In your opinion how would you handle this?

I'd write a note to BM stating that you are unable to reconcile the amount actually paid to the daycare provider with the amount that she is demanding reimbursement for, but that if she sends you copies of her cancelled checks, or lets you personally examine them, that you'll be happy to reimburse her for the one half that you owe.

Otherwise, you won't.

If she goes to court for $50, the court will probably toss her out for wasting judicial resources.

[notthemama]

I would think that the daycare would have an electronic statement they can print that would show tuition amount for each day the child had attended.  Also, the statement should have each payment that had been made (along with cash receipt # or check #).

Of course, all statements vary, but at my STB stepchildren's afterschool care, it shows the childs name, week of date, amount of tuition; and the payments listed line by line in date order.

I do feel that the husband is entitled to an electronic statement printed from the computer system for whatever purpose he feel is necessary.  As for requested the BM cancelled checks, well that seems to be going pretty far.

If there are days charged for childcare when you had the children, ask for them to audit the statements and request the sign in sheet for that particular day.

[MommyX4StepX1]

Thank You...
:-)

[socrateaser]

In CA, the law for reimbursement of healthcare costs, requires the obligor/noncustodial parent to pay the bill first and then seek reimbursement from the court against the obligee/custodial parent. CA law has no similar statute related to daycare, and I know of no such statute in any other jurisdiction. However, just because I am not aware of such a statute, doesn't mean that one doesn't exist in your jurisdiction. So, you may want to investigate this before you refuse payment, because you could find yourself inadvertantly without a leg to stand on in court.

[MommyX4StepX1]

Thanks
 But in the court papers it states that the BM has to submit receipts to DH and then he pays her 1/2 ( for both medical and daycare)

So Bm has to pay the bill first to obtain a receipt to give to DH.

( In Nebraska)
For medical bills I've been told if the NCP carries the insurance on the minor child then the CP has to pay $800.00 out of pocket expenses BEFROE the medical bills are split 50/50.
 I'm not sure if that is a statue in Nebraska or not.. I have not found the statue any where.
This is something that is not surrently in our court papers..But we are interested in adding it IF it is a Nebraska statue.( If we end up back in court)

[socrateaser]

>Thanks
> But in the court papers it states that the BM has to submit
>receipts to DH and then he pays her 1/2 ( for both medical and
>daycare)
>
>So Bm has to pay the bill first to obtain a receipt to give to
>DH.
>
>( In Nebraska)
>For medical bills I've been told if the NCP carries the
>insurance on the minor child then the CP has to pay $800.00
>out of pocket expenses BEFROE the medical bills are split
>50/50.
> I'm not sure if that is a statue in Nebraska or not.. I have
>not found the statue any where.
>This is something that is not surrently in our court
>papers..But we are interested in adding it IF it is a Nebraska
>statue.( If we end up back in court)

Your court orders control, so you are in the clear with respect to any contrary statute.