Evaluation

[BellaDi]

I have asked you a question in the past in regards to evaluations. I have now attended my first meeting, and my ex finally attended his this week. I just received a call from the doctor that states my ex, I, and his new wife all have a meeting this coming Tuesday.

#1. Is it normal for us all to be in a meeting together?

#2 Is the purpose in this to see if we can get along together for the best interest of my daughter?

[socrateaser]

>I have asked you a question in the past in regards to
>evaluations. I have now attended my first meeting, and my ex
>finally attended his this week. I just received a call from
>the doctor that states my ex, I, and his new wife all have a
>meeting this coming Tuesday.
>
>#1. Is it normal for us all to be in a meeting together?

Whatever the evaluator wants is normal.

>#2 Is the purpose in this to see if we can get along together
>for the best interest of my daughter?

Don't try to evaluate the evaluator. That's exactly what they're trained to view as negative. Your goal should be to be as concerned a parent as possible, with no personal stake in the outcome other than your child's happiness. As soon as you try to figure out what the evaluator's looking for, he/she will see that you are trying to manipulate him/her and the circumstances, and everything you do and say after that will be suspect.

Just be yourself, but keep smiling and NEVER say a bad word about the other parent. If you're ever cornered into answering about how you feel, you say that your feelings are irrelevant and only the child(ren)'s interests matter.

[BellaDi]

THank you very much!! I guess that I am so nervous, I just want to be prepared as possible....My daughters happiness IS truly the only thing that matters to me! As long as I let the evaluator see that, that is all that matters