Reasonable approach?

[DecentDad]

Soc,

Recall that previously, OC's paralegal "confided" some stuff in me; noting her job security is at risk if I breached the confidence.

I had another similar call today from her.  Again got the disclaimer.  I just said I won't risk losing a connection to someone reasonable in OC's office who may be able to help resolve things more easily.

So then, she began expressing exasperation with biomom-- that biomom seems to already be trying to figure out how to go back to court again, that biomom was devastated by last week's outcome and is further incensed, biomom is trying to schedule activities to interfere with my vacation time (to make me look bad when I don't take daughter to the activities), biomom wouldn't listen to legal advice to abandon the prior action (paralegal claimed that they advised biomom she may lose custodial time), biomom is intent on interfering with my religious pursuit with daughter, biomom may manufacture bigger accusations, etc.  She said her office may soon be fired, from the sounds of things.

She said that biomom is refusing to sign-off on the proposed orders, so she hasn't been able to send them out.

We went point-by-point on what we heard ordered; we're on the same page with pretty much everything.

She emphasized her goal to make tight orders this round, to both try to reduce conflict and give cleaner contempt positioning.  She commented that I was "right" last year when I pursued contempt, but wanted to make sure I knew that I lost because the orders weren't tight (intro to contempt).

She said she noted she received my draft today but hasn't had time to review.

She said that she won't draft incorrect orders, which is what biomom is demanding, so her office won't be able to get me a draft of the orders for approval.

She said that she'll end up writing up some objections to my orders (on behalf of biomom), and that I don't need to write back-- I should just file it all in 10 days from when I mailed it, including clarification to the judge as to why the objections are incorrect.

1.  She seems authentically trying to help me, but it's tough to imagine she's willing to risk her job.  Is her advice sound for how to proceed?

[socrateaser]

>1.  She seems authentically trying to help me, but it's tough
>to imagine she's willing to risk her job.  Is her advice sound
>for how to proceed?

Forget that she called you and anything she said, while you're pursuing the orders. You just stick to the process.

It doesn't matter what the paralegal says, because you aren't gonna get her on the record to admit it whether it was honest or not. The only thing it's good for is as a warning of things to come.

[DecentDad]

So, they have five days plus five days (service was by mail) to respond with objections?

Or is it just five days, period.

Thanks

[cinb85]

This is strictly my opinion, but if I were in this situation I would worry that this paralegal was telling the ex things that I was saying too.  I hope that he follows your advice Soc!

[socrateaser]

>So, they have five days plus five days (service was by mail)
>to respond with objections?
>
>Or is it just five days, period.
>
>Thanks

Add three days for mail.