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Minnesota State Forum / Driver's license
« on: Jul 19, 2006, 11:38:20 pm »
Anyone know of a way to look up if BM has her DL without the actual #?
Oh yeah, and for free???
Thanks all.
Oh yeah, and for free???
Thanks all.
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Minnesota State Forum / Need some MN help...
« on: Jul 17, 2006, 10:42:44 pm »
Just heard that YSS's mom has been on a binge the last few days. It is her two week visitation. From what I understand, she does not have YSS, but he is at a relative's (where she lives, just isn't there right now).
We are broke, beyond broke. Can NOT afford a PI right now.
What the heck do we do? Is there anything DH CAN do? YSS is to come back on Thur, then we have him for two uninterrupted weeks but then the schedule starts up again.
We do not want her around him while she is doing drugs. But how to prove it???
Thanks all.
We are broke, beyond broke. Can NOT afford a PI right now.
What the heck do we do? Is there anything DH CAN do? YSS is to come back on Thur, then we have him for two uninterrupted weeks but then the schedule starts up again.
We do not want her around him while she is doing drugs. But how to prove it???
Thanks all.
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Minnesota State Forum / Free MN Legal Forms
« on: Feb 01, 2005, 02:16:16 pm »
http://www.courts.state.mn.us/forms/Default.aspx?pageID=9011&activeLink=138
County Courthouse directed me to this website....
County Courthouse directed me to this website....
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Minnesota State Forum / Venting...
« on: Jul 28, 2004, 12:37:15 pm »
What is with this woman? (Actually I DO know what is with her, I just need to vent...)
DH has custody of YSS (5).
PBFH (boy does that fit) has parenting time Wednesday overnights, and eoweekend from Fri Night until Mon Mornings at 9:00. During the summer, she gets 2 weeks "uninterrupted time" as does DH.
THIS IS A VENT, try to follow me here...
BM took her 2 weeks in June, brought SS back a DAY late. DH let it go, because he hates fighting with her.
Monday and Thursday mornings, she has returned SS late every time this summer. Not a little late, from 1 - 2 hours late. DH has said nothing, because he hates fighting with her...
DH went out of town a couple of weekends ago. He gave PBFH the option to take SS, which technically he did not have to do, I could have taken care of SS. But DH was trying to be nice. (do you see a pattern here?)
OK, do the math, so far she is 4 days ahead this summer, and who knows how many hours since she can't get her rear out of bed in the mornings.
DH's two week time starts this weekend. BM has had SS the previous 3 weekends. She calls last night TELLING him that she is going to keep SS from Wed night until Fri night "Because she never gets to see him". Puhhhleeeze.
On a side note, on the weekends she has SS, she takes him overnight Fri, drops him off at her Mom's (hotel room, woman doesn't even have an apartment) Saturday afternoon, and picks up SS on Sunday nights, then keeps him until Monday mornings.
So, if she is so short on time with SS... WHY is she giving him to her Mom EVERY Saturday overnight she has him? Duh, because having SS cuts in on her drinking/drugs time.
Anyway, DH did tell her no. She got all pissy, and he said he had to go. (Because he doesn't like fighting with her).
I told him I was proud of him. He normally gives her her way because if he doesn't, SS suffers (Daddy is so mean to me, he doesn't love you like I do, I'm afraid to be without you, I wish you could live here and visit your Dad because he already has kids there...)
The woman is a b*tch. I can't stand her. I can't stand how she screws with SS's head, and takes advantage of DH's kindness. How in the hell am I going to be able to get through the next 13 years without telling this woman off?!
3 Boys!
OSS - NCP
YSS - CP
DS -CP
DH has custody of YSS (5).
PBFH (boy does that fit) has parenting time Wednesday overnights, and eoweekend from Fri Night until Mon Mornings at 9:00. During the summer, she gets 2 weeks "uninterrupted time" as does DH.
THIS IS A VENT, try to follow me here...
BM took her 2 weeks in June, brought SS back a DAY late. DH let it go, because he hates fighting with her.
Monday and Thursday mornings, she has returned SS late every time this summer. Not a little late, from 1 - 2 hours late. DH has said nothing, because he hates fighting with her...
DH went out of town a couple of weekends ago. He gave PBFH the option to take SS, which technically he did not have to do, I could have taken care of SS. But DH was trying to be nice. (do you see a pattern here?)
OK, do the math, so far she is 4 days ahead this summer, and who knows how many hours since she can't get her rear out of bed in the mornings.
DH's two week time starts this weekend. BM has had SS the previous 3 weekends. She calls last night TELLING him that she is going to keep SS from Wed night until Fri night "Because she never gets to see him". Puhhhleeeze.
On a side note, on the weekends she has SS, she takes him overnight Fri, drops him off at her Mom's (hotel room, woman doesn't even have an apartment) Saturday afternoon, and picks up SS on Sunday nights, then keeps him until Monday mornings.
So, if she is so short on time with SS... WHY is she giving him to her Mom EVERY Saturday overnight she has him? Duh, because having SS cuts in on her drinking/drugs time.
Anyway, DH did tell her no. She got all pissy, and he said he had to go. (Because he doesn't like fighting with her).
I told him I was proud of him. He normally gives her her way because if he doesn't, SS suffers (Daddy is so mean to me, he doesn't love you like I do, I'm afraid to be without you, I wish you could live here and visit your Dad because he already has kids there...)
The woman is a b*tch. I can't stand her. I can't stand how she screws with SS's head, and takes advantage of DH's kindness. How in the hell am I going to be able to get through the next 13 years without telling this woman off?!
3 Boys!
OSS - NCP
YSS - CP
DS -CP
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Minnesota State Forum / BM is a piece of work.
« on: Apr 22, 2004, 10:11:35 am »
SS had kindergarten round up yesterday. As it was BM day of visitation, she demanded that she take him and that DH meet them there. DH let her pick up SS a half hour earlier than usual, just to not fight with the woman.
Ok, so she actually shows up with him, one point to her. But she's stoned and wearing sunglasses (inside) to try to cover up the fact, one point taken away...
She went off on DH, said she's not driving "all the way here" for her visitation. That he can do the driving (which is impossible with his work schedule).
Our new house is a whopping 40 minutes away from her apartment. The house we're currently in is 20 minutes away, so truth be told, our move only adds an extra 20 minutes to her drive.
He's perfectly willing to meet her in evenings at a half way point, if she chooses to exercise her overnight mid-week visits, she will have to drive SS to school. She doesn't start working until the lunch hour, so I don't see where the problem is other than she's on a control trip, and doesn't like getting out of bed in the mornings.
When he told her the date of our move (this summer, still renovating), she said "We'll just see about that". So, what the heck is THAT supposed to mean?
I told DH she might try to get a restraining order, not allowing SS to leave the town. Our attorney said not to worry about it before we bought the house (I asked before we put in an offer on the house), since the distance is not great. 30 miles - 35 miles.
I'm not worried that she'll succeed in stopping the move, but I am worried that we'll waste more of our time and money because she isn't getting her way.
What to do about the suspicion that she was high? DH let her take SS with her, so will it look bad if we document that she looked stoned?
Aaarrrggghhh! When does the stress end? I thought life would get easier after DH was awarded custody... HAH!
Ok, so she actually shows up with him, one point to her. But she's stoned and wearing sunglasses (inside) to try to cover up the fact, one point taken away...
She went off on DH, said she's not driving "all the way here" for her visitation. That he can do the driving (which is impossible with his work schedule).
Our new house is a whopping 40 minutes away from her apartment. The house we're currently in is 20 minutes away, so truth be told, our move only adds an extra 20 minutes to her drive.
He's perfectly willing to meet her in evenings at a half way point, if she chooses to exercise her overnight mid-week visits, she will have to drive SS to school. She doesn't start working until the lunch hour, so I don't see where the problem is other than she's on a control trip, and doesn't like getting out of bed in the mornings.
When he told her the date of our move (this summer, still renovating), she said "We'll just see about that". So, what the heck is THAT supposed to mean?
I told DH she might try to get a restraining order, not allowing SS to leave the town. Our attorney said not to worry about it before we bought the house (I asked before we put in an offer on the house), since the distance is not great. 30 miles - 35 miles.
I'm not worried that she'll succeed in stopping the move, but I am worried that we'll waste more of our time and money because she isn't getting her way.
What to do about the suspicion that she was high? DH let her take SS with her, so will it look bad if we document that she looked stoned?
Aaarrrggghhh! When does the stress end? I thought life would get easier after DH was awarded custody... HAH!
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Minnesota State Forum / Ahhh the confusion of custody orders!
« on: Apr 08, 2004, 09:52:07 am »
Ok, here's the situation...
I have physical custody of son and joint legal with ex.
However, he has supervised visitation due to extreme mental issues.
Our son starts kindergarten in the fall and I just received the paperwork to fill out.
It asks for Father's info, Mother's info, Step-Father's and Step-Mother's.
Yes, I will put ex's name and address on the form, but I do NOT feel that he needs to be on the "call" list.
Yes we have joint legal, but his visits are supervised once a month. (And the supervision continues until son is 18.)
Am I wrong about this one? Can I get in trouble for not putting him on list?
I could be needlessly worrying about it. Since son and I moved here 3 years ago, ex has NEVER asked where son went to daycare or preschool. But I want to CMA!
BETH
I have physical custody of son and joint legal with ex.
However, he has supervised visitation due to extreme mental issues.
Our son starts kindergarten in the fall and I just received the paperwork to fill out.
It asks for Father's info, Mother's info, Step-Father's and Step-Mother's.
Yes, I will put ex's name and address on the form, but I do NOT feel that he needs to be on the "call" list.
Yes we have joint legal, but his visits are supervised once a month. (And the supervision continues until son is 18.)
Am I wrong about this one? Can I get in trouble for not putting him on list?
I could be needlessly worrying about it. Since son and I moved here 3 years ago, ex has NEVER asked where son went to daycare or preschool. But I want to CMA!
BETH
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Minnesota State Forum / MN Child Support Division...What a JOKE!!!
« on: Feb 13, 2004, 11:11:01 am »
You ALL will love this one...
DH was awarded sole physical custody of ss on 1/6/04. BM was ordered to start paying child support on 2/1/04 (like that will ever happen!).
MNCS continues to garnish DH's wages. His attorney spoke with them on 1/9/04, and 1/23/04 followed up by a fax. I sent them a fax earlier this week of the court order and the copy of the fax that attorney had sent them.
I spoke with someone today, and she said that they are continuing to garnish DH's wages because they are not sure if they BELIEVE THE COURT PAPERS.
Basically, the papers say that DH gets sole physical custody and that BM is to pay CS, but it does not expressly say that DH is to stop paying CS, so they're not sure. They feel they need to talk to the couny attorney office for verification.
DUH! If he has custody, and BM is to pay CS to him, then WHY would he pay HER???? Just because she's a woman on welfare??? Because she'd rather snort every dollar she gets up her nose than care for her son???
I called our attorney and he actually had to put me on hold because he was laughing so hard! He said he knew there were idiots at the CS office, but this one topped the cake. Fortunetly, he said he'll call the county attorney and have him call the CS office directly to put a fire under their rears.
Unbelievable!
BETH
x(
DH was awarded sole physical custody of ss on 1/6/04. BM was ordered to start paying child support on 2/1/04 (like that will ever happen!).
MNCS continues to garnish DH's wages. His attorney spoke with them on 1/9/04, and 1/23/04 followed up by a fax. I sent them a fax earlier this week of the court order and the copy of the fax that attorney had sent them.
I spoke with someone today, and she said that they are continuing to garnish DH's wages because they are not sure if they BELIEVE THE COURT PAPERS.
Basically, the papers say that DH gets sole physical custody and that BM is to pay CS, but it does not expressly say that DH is to stop paying CS, so they're not sure. They feel they need to talk to the couny attorney office for verification.
DUH! If he has custody, and BM is to pay CS to him, then WHY would he pay HER???? Just because she's a woman on welfare??? Because she'd rather snort every dollar she gets up her nose than care for her son???
I called our attorney and he actually had to put me on hold because he was laughing so hard! He said he knew there were idiots at the CS office, but this one topped the cake. Fortunetly, he said he'll call the county attorney and have him call the CS office directly to put a fire under their rears.
Unbelievable!
BETH
x(
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Minnesota State Forum / Are we being finicky?
« on: Jan 13, 2004, 09:46:20 am »
Ok, as many of you know from my post last week, my DH won sole physical custody of his youngest son.
We have since received papers from the judge and there is a huge red flag that I think I have caught....
Basically, the Judge said that DH gets custody because he is more stable of the two financially. BM hasn't held a job for more than a few months in the past four years, and never anything over 20 hours per week. She has lived off of CS, state aid, and mooching off of friends and family, just to not work.
For the past year and a half, the temp order was in place for each parent to have child alternating weeks (Sun-Sun).
The final order came back with DH having physical custody with BM having Tuesday nights to Thursday nights and every other weekend. I've done the math, each parent still gets him for seven days in a two week span, but now he'll change beds 6 times in fourteen days.
Soooo, let's say she finally gets her act together in the next couple of years, then takes DH back to court. He may legally have physical custody, but they will both have had the same amount of time.
Am I worrying where I shouldn't? I'd hate to have gone through all of this for her to get the extra time needed to take custody away from DH.
Please let me know your thoughts.
Beth
We have since received papers from the judge and there is a huge red flag that I think I have caught....
Basically, the Judge said that DH gets custody because he is more stable of the two financially. BM hasn't held a job for more than a few months in the past four years, and never anything over 20 hours per week. She has lived off of CS, state aid, and mooching off of friends and family, just to not work.
For the past year and a half, the temp order was in place for each parent to have child alternating weeks (Sun-Sun).
The final order came back with DH having physical custody with BM having Tuesday nights to Thursday nights and every other weekend. I've done the math, each parent still gets him for seven days in a two week span, but now he'll change beds 6 times in fourteen days.
Soooo, let's say she finally gets her act together in the next couple of years, then takes DH back to court. He may legally have physical custody, but they will both have had the same amount of time.
Am I worrying where I shouldn't? I'd hate to have gone through all of this for her to get the extra time needed to take custody away from DH.
Please let me know your thoughts.
Beth
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Minnesota State Forum / WE WON!!!!!!!
« on: Jan 05, 2004, 03:07:59 pm »
Attorney just called me. He spoke with the court recorder and was told that the judge has made her decision on yss (5).
DH gets physical custody!
This has been a long haul, been at for nearly three years, but it's finally going to happen now!
Now DSS gets to live in a home with parents that care about him and his future!
If anyone is looking for a great attorney in the SE MN area, get a hold of me! Ours is fantastic!
BETH
DH gets physical custody!
This has been a long haul, been at for nearly three years, but it's finally going to happen now!
Now DSS gets to live in a home with parents that care about him and his future!
If anyone is looking for a great attorney in the SE MN area, get a hold of me! Ours is fantastic!
BETH
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Minnesota State Forum / TULIP
« on: Nov 26, 2003, 01:48:56 pm »
Your post got erased by mistake. I let the Sparc Admin know and he requested that I let you know.
:)
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