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Divorce News / We're Sugar Babies. This Is What It's Like.
« Last post by News Hound on Apr 13, 2018, 05:00:06 PM »
We're Sugar Babies. This Is What It's Like.
13 April 2018, 3:30 pm

"The key is to have them work for you, not for you to work for them. You’re the boss."

Source: Divorce

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Custody Issues / Re: change in custody due to child academic performance
« Last post by ocean on Apr 11, 2018, 05:49:06 PM »
Mom has not seen child in a year and filed for custody now? No visits, nothing?

Will she pass this year? Keep working with the school and be on top of missed classwork and homework. You can have the teacher do a simple check sheet to bring home each day to you about the day, if she handed in work, homework, finished classwork. Handing in classwork and homework is not on the teacher and you should be on top of her for things she can control and consequences for when she doesn't. This custody trial will never be over before school ends this year. Keep doing what you are doing and out off one of the hearings and this year will be over and as long as she passed to move to the next grade it should be fine. The real issue should be why she wants custody if she has not see child ......Also, find out when you can sign child up for the new school, middle school makes schedules already for next school year. Get her enrolled with a schedule you can bring to court and state you kept her there as the counselor advised until the end of the school year.
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Custody Issues / change in custody due to child academic performance
« Last post by Amarant01 on Apr 11, 2018, 05:22:34 PM »
Hello all,

About 6 months ago, I was awarding primary custody of my daughter, after her mother had removed herself from her life for over 8 months.  At the current point in time, my daughter, has not seen her mother well over a year, with 1 exception- she saw her in a walmart 3 months ago.  The mother recently filed for custody citing my daughters academic performance as reasoning, my daughters grades have been slipping, while not outright failing everything, her grades have been lower than normal.  For lack of making this lengthy, the actions of the teacher have contributed to this drop, the teacher has been frequently absent, and not grading the entirety of the coursework that my daughter completes, and loses her work as well.  My daughter isn't the only child having trouble in this teachers class, and not the only child in her grade having performance problems.  The school that she attends was picked and registered by her mother during the a time when we shared custody, and my daughter lived with her half of the week, and the school has always not been accredited the entire time.  The mother has two other children that were going to the same school, but transferred them before the current school year, leaving my daughter at the bad school, all of this before the change in custody occurred.  Given that the change in custody happened in the middle of the school year, I didn't move her to school in my district, as I live in another city than where she goes to school, and her school counselor and myself felt it would be too traumatic to change her to another school mid year given the custody and cps dram that she recently experienced.  My daughter is in fifth grade, and would be changing to middle school the following year, I figured that should be when she should experience that change, in school and environment. My daughters home environment is great, as there is a strong support system, healthy household, and she does well in her extra curricular activities, which her mother has no involvement, voluntarily.  My concern, is if her academic performance is enough to perform a change, by itself.
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Divorce News / 12 Sex Toys That Sex Therapists Say Will Change Your Life
« Last post by News Hound on Apr 11, 2018, 11:00:04 AM »
12 Sex Toys That Sex Therapists Say Will Change Your Life
11 April 2018, 7:01 am

We have recommendations for women and men.

Source: Divorce

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6 Ridiculous Fights Marriage Therapists Have Actually Had To Mediate
5 April 2018, 11:52 am

Moderating matrimonial disputes -- even the ridiculous ones -- is all in a day's work.

Source: Divorce

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If You’re On A Dating App, Chances Are You’ve Been Hatfished
3 April 2018, 1:09 pm

Snap judgments and constant swipes left may drive some men to do this.

Source: Divorce

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Divorce News / Do Couples Therapists Ever Suggest Divorce?
« Last post by News Hound on Apr 02, 2018, 11:03:05 AM »
Do Couples Therapists Ever Suggest Divorce?
2 April 2018, 7:00 am

We asked therapists whether the "Big Little Lies" scenario ever happens in real life.

Source: Divorce

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Visitation Issues / Re: NC Mom refusing to allow visit
« Last post by tigger on Apr 02, 2018, 10:25:33 AM »
I'm interested in the outcome of your situation.  I'm in Wake County.

Her reaction is based out of fear.  Whatever the cause of your break up, she now has a new person coming into her daughter's life that she didn't pick, has no control over and doesn't know.  She has no idea the influence this new person will have over her daughter.  It's a scary place to be in.  Not saying she's justified, just saying what is her likely thought process.  Especially if the daughter has nice things to say about your SO. 

Is the SO out of state?  Many CO's have a standard "will notify other parent if child is to be taken out of the state" clause.  My ex routinely ignored this clause.  I knew the person they were visiting (his new wife's sister) and there was no safety concern but it was unsettling that he would feel the need to hide this and raised concern that he may leave the state permanently with them.  (He had always wanted to live in Montana and when you're fearful of something, you're not always rational or reasonable in your thinking.)

Your best defense at this point is to keep all communication "Business Only".  No accusations, no emotions, no information that's not necessary.  We tried to keep a journal that went back and forth and while I entered information that was necessary (health, medication, education, etc.) my ex's wife would include how she made OS's favorite breakfast and what fun they had when daddy cooked out on the grill and how important family time was to them.  Only purpose of that was to get under my skin.  I had no patience for the nonsense and game playing.  But definitely don't feed into her fears or insecurities.
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Divorce News / 7 Signs You're Moving Too Fast When You're Dating Someone
« Last post by News Hound on Mar 30, 2018, 11:00:59 AM »
7 Signs You're Moving Too Fast When You're Dating Someone
30 March 2018, 10:17 am

The process of falling in love isn't like your latest Amazon order. You don't want it to be rushed.

Source: Divorce

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Divorce News / 7 Phrases You Should Never Say During An Argument
« Last post by News Hound on Mar 30, 2018, 11:00:59 AM »
7 Phrases You Should Never Say During An Argument
30 March 2018, 10:01 am

Don't resort to these low blows.

Source: Divorce

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