>Don't you believe to some extent that if you throw away the
>parent you throw away a part of the child too? From my
>personal experience I know that no matter how much my mom
>abused me I would have given anything for her to have received
>help.
Thats one of the reasons children dont have the right to decide for themselves. They are developmentally unable to make an informed decision on these kind of issues.
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>My mom did some pretty horrible things. Many people get mad
>at me for having anything to do with her now, but no matter
>how much I've tried to get away from it, she will always be my
>mother and I am a part of her. I don't take her abuse
>anymore, but I'm also not going to punish her for what she
>can't even realize that she's doing. She is mentally ill as
>are a large number of substance abusers, so where will it get
>me to deny her my presence in her life.
Where it would get you is healthy. What it would have gotten you growing up, is a chance at a childhood free of abuse. Whats frightening, is the codependance I'm seeing here. How on earth can the abuse be excused if the abuser is sick?? Umm, are'nt most abusers sick?
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>I've decided that I'm a stronger and better person for having
>to make it through with her as a mother. Don't get me wrong,
>I don't want to see anyone go through the hell she created,
>but no matter what a child's mother will always be a part of
>them and helping them (if they want it) is always a good thing
>in my opinion.
Ok, I'm a finer human being for having been wounded in combat,, sure dont want any others to use my particular path to enlightenment, nor was your path to being a better person anything to emulate for any child. There is a distinct difference between helping, and enabling. No one is saying a child should or can stop loving a parent, BUT children deserve to be protected against abusive or addict parents. Children didnt choose to be here, the parents made that choice for them. Children dont deserve to be put thru hell because their parent makes poor choices, they deserve to be happy, well, and free of abuse.