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This is actually not contempt, Family access is a low cost option so parents can get visitation enforced pro se. When you send in the motion it has options that you check off for what remedies you want. In our case I asked for make up time, court fees paid, and that PBFH go to counseling for her problem. I put (my child) and (their) in those spots cause I don't know who might read this and the real one will have names. Thanks for all your input, hagatha I think I'm gonna copy yours an use it :7

We are finally going to do something about not seeing my DSS. We have filed for a Motion for Family Access in Missouri. We are doing this pro se and because of this GREAT! web site I believe the PBFH won't have a chance. Here is the rough draft of the opening statement any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.........

XXX is frustrating my visitation by refusing to bring my (child) to XXXXXX to complete a weekend visit which is outlined in our Divorce Decree. XXX denied visitation in a letter dated XXX which resulted in the loss of 5 days visitation in the summer of 2004. XXX also denied visitation in a letter dated XXXX which caused me to lose another 7 days visitation. In this letter XXX also states that my (child) will not be flying for any of (their) visits even though our Divorce Decree requires XXX to pick up and drop off our (child) at an airport, for (their) regularly scheduled visitation. XXX will not tell me the name of my (child's) school because she does not want me communicating with the school. I have a copy of my (child's) report card that XXX sent to me with the school name and also the teacher's name blacked out. I have lost a total of twelve days visitation with XXXX and XXX"s refusal to cooperate is causing serious detriment to the healthy relationship between me and my son.

I'm sure this is the wrong board.......

My DH was denied visitation again but we have it very well documented this time :)

Anyway, while talking to DSS on the phone DSS said he got a letter from Santa and read it to my DH. The letter said that DSS's mom, grandma,grandpa, and teacher were all good people and that he should be a good boy and listen to them and he will get presents next year. The letter didn't say anything about dad, I find that kind of mean. Does this sound like brain washing to you?

>but when you're talking distances like this,
>there's very few alternatives, except for one parent to move
>closer to the other.

Exactly! and I meant in addition to their Thanksgiving and Christmas visits.

:7 Smart idea!

We have a similar problem with my DH'S ex, she doesn't even want us to take the kid out of city limits!!! BUT......... Really how much effort does it take to tell her by phone or mail that you are taking a trip??????? I think you should treat people the way you want to be treated, no matter how evil or vindictive they are.

I would stop the every other weekend thing, and make up for that lost time with a Spring break/ Easter visit and also give mom a good deal of the little ones summer vacation for visits. I  would be having "outbursts" too if I had to spend 14 hours in a car twice a month.

Thanks for the advice it is greatly appreciated. *Update*  My DH called PBFH and basically told her to write everything down on paper and send it (document, document, document!!!) we learned our lesson the hard way. She prefers to stray from the topic at hand and argue, I think she is upset because it is getting to the point where contact between her and DH will be limited after this visit. She mentioned a few "rules" and said the "state" was behind her, she wanted SS to spend every other night with her in the hotel and we weren't allowed to take him out of city limits. Of course these stipulations are not in the decree and my DH and I are at the point where we aren't going to give in to her B.S. any longer and I have a bad feeling we are all going to end up in court soon.

p.s. we are to pay all transportation costs for SS and EX this visit, but if EX wants to come on next visit she has to buy her own ticket.

My DH's visitation order is finally at the point where ex "transports" DSS to us for a weekend( we live 1100 miles apart).  I called her to find out which days she had off so I could send her our notice of intent.... so we could get all of the fighting finished before the x-mas holidays. She tells me she is getting a week off and wants to visit family in our state and that if we rented her a car she would drop off/pick up DSS at a halfway point. The whole reason for her transporting DSS is because it will be his first time on a plane and after this visit he will be doing it by himself. She didn't seem to care about that and mentioned how much money she would be saving us (not much). If we rent her a car and meet halfway it would be the same as us driving all the way to DSS's home state and back, which is pointless. So my question is: if a war starts because she refuses to put DSS on a plane, is that considered contempt ? frustration of visitation? Or should we just give up, give in, and get it over with?x(

Depends on how long it's been since you've seen her....... The court will probably set something up where mom brings her to you a few times or you have to go visit daughter at her house a few times, so she is comfortable with visits. GOOD LUCK :)