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If your Divorce Decree doesn't say anything at all you are gonna have to go and file for some sort of visitation.

If your Decree states that you are allowed reasonable visitation......
You should send a certified letter to Ex stating that you intend to excercise your visitation and give date and time you will be there. Be sure to add that she contact you by certified mail within a month if dates and times cause a conflict with children schedules.

If she calls and screws around with you still .... send the missed visitation letter to her ( the format is on this web site somewhere) make sure you keep all documentation for court.

If you have to show up in Michigan to pick up children bring everything ( divorce decree, certified letter etc.) and call the cops if she wont let you take them.  

TAKE ALL EVIDENCE TO COURT AND FILE FOR CONTEMPT EVERY TIME SHE DOES IT. (you may end up with custody if you try hard enough)

First of all your boyfriend can go and file for a divorce and if wife does not respond within a certain amount of time, he will get a divorce by default. That is if he really does want a divorce and he's not jerking you and wife#2 around.... have you spoken to wife #2 or is this what boyfriend tells you she is saying.

Second of all I think if you guys are going to be in court any time soon regarding the child, it WOULD look bad because you are living out of wedlock. I don't think wife#1 can change any visits unless she does take you to court and try to make you guys look bad.

Sorry so long....
Divorce agreement states my DH gets 2 days per month every three months for a year (which equals 24 days in 1 year right?)because son lives in another state.The year has passed... and we have visited DSS for 24 days, it just didn't take 4 visits to do it. After this is completed(within a reasonable time frame) EX is to bring DSS for a weekend to us(we pay) then a regular visitation starts starting with 1 week in summer of 2004.

The whole reason for all of this is so father and son can re-bond so son will be comfortable visiting dad out of state.......

We think its time for the weekend visit, EX thinks my DH still needs to visit out of state 2 more times.

So my questions are:

1. What counts more: amount of days visited? or how many times DH travels out of state?

2. If DH gives in and travels out of state 1 or 2 more times doesn't that mess up the whole reasonable time frame thing? we miss our 1 week here in summer and probably have to cut winter visit to 2 days instead of 1 week.

3. How does everybody else here deal with complicated visitation schedules and EXes that are trying to sever NCP and child relationship completely?

4. When do we get to the point where we can take her to court for interference with visitation?

I am just completly confused, this woman sabotages everything and she doesn't care if her son gets hurt as long as she gets revenge. She is completly unreasonable and is even doing things that would be considered P.A.S. but from what I read here if we take this and all of the other things that make her look unstable and abusive to court we still don't have a very good chance of getting custody! Thanks for any advice or similar stories with good outcomes.

P.S. Ex had phone cut off without providing new #. It took us 3 weeks to of us leaving messsages at EXes parents house before she called us back and gave a new #

Is that considered contempt ?

When she did finally call back the first thing I asked was "did you move? " she said no. But just recently(three months after the ph# incident) she sent notice that she moved. The letter was sent on May 7th, dated May 10th and stated "As of above date this is new address......." That gives us exactly 0 days of notice. I think the Decree states "60 days notice" and the last time I checked you have to give 30 to your landlord when you move.
 
Is that considered contempt?