Hi Soc,
We have joint legal and joint physical in Ca. Fifteen year old son has drug and alcohol addiction. Has been in counseling 6 mo. after overdose in Oct. and ER visit. I asked his mom (my ex) at that time to allow him to enter a treatment program after his overdose (I would pay), but she refused to "send him away" and would only agree to counseling. In addition, she told son that "your father wants to send you away" which has alienated him from me and given him cause to act out even more
Yesterday his counselor urged us to enter him into a wilderness program as his addiction is worsening (failed freshman year, continuing drugs and drinking while at moms unsupervised). Ex refuses.
In addition she signed him up for drivers training without informing me or his counselor. Counselor and I had an agreement with son that he would need to be sober for at least 4 mo. prior. He is not. (In my opinion her own alcoholism is causing this denial or refusal to act to protect our son, but that is an opinion. I can't figure out why she would want him behind the wheel of a car or not getting better if not that).
I was unsuccessful in obtaining more than 50/50 in a custody bid last year.
1. Do I need to get legal custody so I can get my son in treatment? Or perhaps just legal custody over this issue? The counselor has said he will do whatever it takes to help including appearing, if necessary.
2. What would be your advise on how to get some control here so I can protect my son? (We have a younger son as well, 13, who is starting down this road as well.)
Any help would be very much appreciated Soc. I am so frustrated.
Thanks.
We have joint legal and joint physical in Ca. Fifteen year old son has drug and alcohol addiction. Has been in counseling 6 mo. after overdose in Oct. and ER visit. I asked his mom (my ex) at that time to allow him to enter a treatment program after his overdose (I would pay), but she refused to "send him away" and would only agree to counseling. In addition, she told son that "your father wants to send you away" which has alienated him from me and given him cause to act out even more
Yesterday his counselor urged us to enter him into a wilderness program as his addiction is worsening (failed freshman year, continuing drugs and drinking while at moms unsupervised). Ex refuses.
In addition she signed him up for drivers training without informing me or his counselor. Counselor and I had an agreement with son that he would need to be sober for at least 4 mo. prior. He is not. (In my opinion her own alcoholism is causing this denial or refusal to act to protect our son, but that is an opinion. I can't figure out why she would want him behind the wheel of a car or not getting better if not that).
I was unsuccessful in obtaining more than 50/50 in a custody bid last year.
1. Do I need to get legal custody so I can get my son in treatment? Or perhaps just legal custody over this issue? The counselor has said he will do whatever it takes to help including appearing, if necessary.
2. What would be your advise on how to get some control here so I can protect my son? (We have a younger son as well, 13, who is starting down this road as well.)
Any help would be very much appreciated Soc. I am so frustrated.
Thanks.