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Father's Issues / Re: Is this possible
Jan 09, 2010, 01:49:09 PM
I don't know if it helps, but my DH's CO parenting time is every Saturday-Tuesday, close to 50/50 split.  Granted, every other weekend BM gets kids until 4pm on Saturday, so she does get some weekend time, where as your schedule would keep her from having any weekend.  Would the children's mother have a problem with not seeing them on the weekends, I mean would she even be open for 40/60 or 50/50?  And one more suggestion, maybe every other Saturday she could get them for a few hours, if she did want weekend time.  Just a thought.   Is there a court order of parenting time in place right now?
My step-children have also been in a split visitation.  Saturday-Tuesday with dad, the rest with mom.  It has been like this every time they broke up when the oldest (now 11) was a baby and permanently for the past 4 1/2 years.  They seem to like it and are not used to any other way.  If there is a disruption in this schedule, they do not like it.

Do every thing you can not to give in to less time.  It will be harder to get more time in the future.
thank you, i know it is ultimately her fault, that is what makes me so mad.  kids first!  then husband.
wow, i never realized how someone being concerned for their kids could be so villianized.  like i mentioned before, those kids go through a lot with their step-dad and their mom is an idiot and lets them down daily as a parent.  she could care less about their schooling, whether they eat, or when they go to bed.  unless her husband has the rules and then she does whatever her husband asks without regards to her own children.  how is it that people negative "karma'd" me for that?  sorry just think its crazy.
Quote from: ocean on Dec 08, 2009, 05:31:13 PM
Where was the mother in all of this? She left for work earlier? Than the kid was left alone in their house?
If you guys are custodial, why are they there on school days? split custody?
BM was there, letting SS get punished.  She leaves later and takes his kids to school so all of them can leave later while DH's kids have to wake up earlier so step-dad can take them to school.  It is split, she has them wed,thurs, fri.
Quote from: MomofTwo on Dec 08, 2009, 04:00:25 AM
And this is the other step parent complaining about the other step parent.  This is not the NCP having an issue.
My DH is custodial, and he has a big problem with his children missing school.  He is the one that goes to conferences, holiday programs, school parties etc.  She does not.  She thinks that a "Good Enough Degree" is exactly that, good enough.
Quote from: MomofTwo on Dec 07, 2009, 03:30:15 PM
But it was also a snow day.  How can you know for sure that the child was kept home due to not being responsible?

I think you pick your battles and this is not a battle worth fighting for the parents.
I know he was left behind because the step-dad left too early to see that there was a snow day and he brought the younger son to Grandma's before school as usual.

We did not say anything because of the ridiculous PPO she has against DH.  This isn't the first time they have been kept from school for stupid reasons, this is just the first time the step-dad has done it.  I also do not believe it is his right in his position to keep the kids from school, unless he is the only parent around and the children are very sick.
Quote from: Gestalt on Dec 07, 2009, 07:58:04 AM daughter (7) gets into trouble when she doesn't put her dirty clothes down the laundry chute to be washed.  I wash it, not track it.

maybe just a parenting difference

but would you keep a kid home from school for it, that is the issue i have
DH picks up kids today from mom's.    10 year old SS tells dad that he was grounded by his step-dad yesterday.  The reason, he had no clean pants to wear.  I suppose the situation was that in the morning SS couldn't find pants to wear that he had not already worn at least twice.  Step-dad takes them to grandma's before school which is about 25 mins away.  Mom got mad looking for jeans, I guess this resulted in them being late.  So step-dad said he is grounded and staying home from school.  Step-dad brings younger SS to grandma's and later on find out it is a snow day anyway, so at least older SS wasn't kept from school because of the pants.  10 year old SS does not do his own laundry at mom's (neither does he here)  How is it that he is grounded for his mother not doing her job?  And to keep him home from school because of it?  Fortunately it was a snow day because he does not need to be kept home from school because of his mom's laziness.

My apologies, I suppose this a rant more than anything.  But I do believe it is excessive for the step-dad to ground a kid from school.  I have been with DH for 3 years longer than the step-dad has been around and I have never grounded the boys.  I have put them in their rooms for 20 mins or something like that, but never grounded, especially for something that was my or my husband's fault. 

I guess I will document if they keep them home from school for reasons such as these.