Need everyones input........help if you can!

[Stepmom0418]

Thank You very much for the info. Dh and I have talked about the possibility of SS being Lactose Intolerant a few months ago. DH was Lactose Intolerant when he was a child so it wouldnt surprise us if SS was too. One other thing we were kind of thinking about a little is that SS doesnt eat healthy food at his BM's and when we eat it is most generally heathy. We were wondering if your body could react to healthy foods if you werent used to having it? Any body know the answer to this feel free to comment cause we would love some input!!



>>>>>>>Well, when he was about three he began with bouts of tummy viruses. He would throw up for 2-3 days at a time. Doctor would say it was the virus, or sinus and drainage making him ill. This went on for well over a year. Every 3-5 weeks he would be sick again...same diagnosis.
                  This is EXACTLY what happens with my SS.


Now the biggest issue with all of this is ......

1) BM refuses to communicate with DH about SS's medical info. (or anything else for that matter)
2) BM doesn't take SS to a "regular" Dr. She takes him to this clinic and that clinic and he sees this Dr and that Dr. (where ever she thinks she wants to take him at any given time.)
3) If DH would call BM and say hey i think maybe he shouldn't have milk cause he may be Lactose Intolerant, she would either try to cause an argument with DH or she would ignore what he says and not do anything about it. Just like when he was to see a specialist during Dh's summer visitation and she just decides to not to let him come during that time because DH told her of the Dr visit and asked her to come too. And she also didnt take him to the appt at all!


What if anything can anyone suggest here.

We are going to court for contempts the end of April.

[Stepmom0418]

Did your nephew run a fever when his body was reacting to the dairy product??

[Stepmom0418]

Dh got ahold of his attorney yesterday and attorney is not very happy. He is calling the Hospital and the Clinic to see if he can get them to comply and said if they will not comply he wants to know why they aren't complying with a CO. Also he said he will supenea (sp?) the records if that is what he has to do.

So we will wait and see what happens next.

[dipper]

Hi, you said your dh had been lactose intolerant .  My brother was as well..and his oldest son is.  Even today, if my brother is going to be eating a lot of dairy, he takes pills beforehand.  My nephew did run a fever at times when he would have his violent reactions.

The specialist put my nephew on a strict diet to rid his body of all that was toxic to him.  For example, my nephew had to eat - I believe it is Duncan Hines Brownies instead of other mixes, because of what they had in them.  Honestly, my nephew was so young at the time but once he was told milk made him sick...that child would not even ask for anything with that in it.  And if someone tried to give him something, he would remind us - I cannot have that, it will make me sick.

This child had went through years of illness...and at the age of 3/4, he didnt want to suffer anymore...he was a champion for his diet.

Does your dh have joint legal?  I know he was trying to do the right thing by telling the bm about appts, but doing the right thing only serves to bite us in the butt.  Take the child to a specialist and then tell her.

Also, we have had pretty good luck in just sending the letters available on  here to get medical info.  God ss' counseling notes recently - found out that bm is blaming dh for everything....she is just a saint.  Lied and lied about dh.....

[Stepmom0418]

My DH does have joint legal. Finally got med records for the period that SS was in the hospital. (Dh and I marched right into the hospital with CO in hand and demanded them to hand them over) Found out that the reason that the hospital wouldn't give Dh info was because BM neglected to tell Dr's who SS's father was. So hospital called and left message for BM to call them as they had a few questions for her in regards to SS's father. Well she to this day has never called them back........so hospital claimed that they didnt know if DH was in fact SS's father or some guy claiming to be off the street and HIPPA blah blah blah. (Funny part is that we have sent CO to them before and furthermore they have sent DH medical records in the past!!!!!!!) Still DH has been unable to speak directly to the Dr that addmitted and seen SS while in the hospital.


Med records said dehydration, gastrenteritis, and high levels of ketones. Also high levels of #GRAN and %GRAN. After giving fluids WBC spiked. We dont know much other than what we have found on the internet since the Dr refuses to call DH back. BM also denied any family history of diabetic or heart and kidney and her great gma is diabetic and has had a kidney tranplant and Dh's family has both on his side as well. Heck in OCT. DH had an angiogram done due to chest pain and a positive stress test, which she was notified of.

The last time SS was he was fine. Bm doesnt allow contact when we dont have him here which is against the co. He should be here this weekend unless she pulls one of her stunts since court is aproaching and thats what she has done in the past.


BM also tries to blame dh for everything and lies lies lies. But on the plus side hopefully the judge will come through with some consequences and ss will get the best outcome after court the 27th!!!

If there is anyone that can help me out in regards to the above info it would be great. Dr or nurses?? Anyone??

[dipper]

I am glad you at least got this far.  Best luck in court on the 27th!!

And kuddos to you both - going in there and demanding your rights!