How do you as a step- mother cope with the BM?

[joni]

What you said here was the best that any of us could hope for

>>>my presence in their lives can and will have some positive impact in the long run. And that I can give them something valuable that they would not have had otherwise.

[wendl]

Teak,

I couldn't agree with what youa re saying here, I have been dealing with it for almost 5yrs.

Dh and I took a vacation after trial for a late anniversary gift OMG it was well needed and we enjoyed the stress free time alone.

We continue to enforce our rules. our expectations, and love to the kids in hope that they will see later in life what we have done and have tried to do for them. These kids actually know and retain more than we give them credit for and they will learn later in life the truth of the matters that we had to deal with. When it is approperaite to do so.

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**