BM using law enforcment to legally harass

[msme]

I don't see how she could make it look like it was because of him if he initiates the change. If anything, it would show that he has nothing to hide & wants to have it there to protect himself from false abuse allegations.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

[kitten]

Just following attorney's advice.

[kitten]

Just following attorney's advice.

[msme]

>I don't see how she could make it look like it was because of him if he initiates the change. If anything, it would show that he has nothing to hide & wants to have it there to protect himself from false abuse allegations.<

I wasn't suggesting that you shouldn't follow your attorneys advice but was raising a reasonable question. Remember that your attorney works for you & while you are paying for their advice, it doesn't mean that you must follow it unquestioningly.

Is your attorney a Board Certified Family Law & Custody Specialist, who specializes in father's rights? Again, I am not disparaging your attorney, only asking about her experience in this specific field. I know that when my son hired a plain divorce lawyer, he was eaten alive in court but when he changed to a specialist, everything changed for the better.

The video camera is great. But as many here have related, it is very difficult to get the tapes entered into evidence. It does tend to make some people behave, others just don't seem to care. However subpoenaing (sp) a police dispatcher & having your tapes, & theirs, to go with it could make a big difference.

Good luck & God bless you & your family. We will be praying for you all.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

[kitten]

>>I don't see how she could make it look like it was because
>of him if he initiates the change. If anything, it would show
>that he has nothing to hide & wants to have it there to
>protect himself from false abuse allegations.<

This case has been very messy thanks to bm.  He had a restraining order that was dropped, but still has a stay away.  She felt it would not look good given the past allegations that may still be holding some weight.  We are in a fragile position right now, but gaining a hold finally thanks to his attorney.

>Is your attorney a Board Certified Family Law & Custody
>Specialist, who specializes in father's rights? Again, I am
>not disparaging your attorney, only asking about her
>experience in this specific field. I know that when my son
>hired a plain divorce lawyer, he was eaten alive in court but
>when he changed to a specialist, everything changed for the
>better.
Yes, she is and has written books on divorce and custody battles and how it affects everyone involved.

>
>The video camera is great. But as many here have related, it
>is very difficult to get the tapes entered into evidence. It
>does tend to make some people behave, others just don't seem
>to care. However subpoenaing (sp) a police dispatcher & having
>your tapes, & theirs, to go with it could make a big
>difference.
It is mainly to get her to behave since she has a habit of trying to "set him up" to compile more "evidence".  Like I said earlier, we are in a fragile position right now and have to be very careful.

>
>Good luck & God bless you & your family. We will be praying
>for you all.
Thank you so much, that means alot.

[msme]

Sounds like you have all the bases covered. I guess all you can do is pray. We know first hand how difficult the courts can be & what life is like with a pbfh.

Tell him another 3 months is too long. It will become status quo & be harder to reverse. Many people here can tell him both how some kids came back as adults & asked why their father didn't love them enough to fight for them & others can tell you how their child came back & thanked them for fighting for them.

In the latter cases, they usually hate their mother for trying to keep their father away & want nothing to do with her.

Anyway, we will keep up the prayers.
Good luck & God bless.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

[kitten]

The kids are still here and he still has his regular visitation.  We are trying to prevent a move.  So three more months is excellent.  That's 3 more months the kids can see their Dad and 3 more months to support our case.