BM using law enforcment to legally harass

[kitten]

Well, after DR. Phil my bf's ex has just deepened her resolve and is acting more volatile than ever.  She has refused to participate in the follow-up after the show and is denying she said she would put off the court date and go to post-marital counseling.  That is not the worst of it.
She has a friend who is a Sheriff in her city.  In June she set up my BF and had the officer "lay in wait" to give him a expired registration ticket on his vehicle, which was dropped by the judge right after he laughed about the officer's irresponsibility.  Last night she filed a police report w/said officer after my bf dropped off the kids after visitation.  She said he violated the CO by parking one tire on "her" lawn.  (My bf still owns the house and has always and continues to pay the mortgage)  He had to park the tire on the lawn because she had two cars parked in the driveway in such a way that he could only partially park his vehicle there to help his kids out of the car.  She also said that he discussed the court case with their son.  His 7 yo confided in him that he did not want to move to Alaska and my bf asked him if he had yet shared these feelings w/ Nana (BM's mother). He said no and had not shared this feeling w/bm either.  My bf suggested that if he does not feel comfortable talking to mom, maybe he could talk to his nana about his feelings. Let me also add that when my bf first got to the house to pick up his children, bm approached his vehicle to hand him some mail after they had agreed several month earlier that she is not to approach his vehicle and he will not approach her front door.  She was trying to get a reaction out of him so that she could obtain a police report.  She got no reaction (bf knew this was her game) so she is trying a little different  accusation, but still trying to show contempt.  She made such a fool out of herself on national television that she is desperatley trying to compile "evidence" against him for the Sept. custody trial.  I've said it before and I'll sayit again...I hope we have a judge with a brain.

[catherine]

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[Kitty C.]

Is this deputy friend of hers aware that she's been on Dr. Phil abut the custody case??  Maybe there is some way he could be 'anonymously' notified of the date, suggesting that it would be to his 'professional benefit' that he see whom he is picking sides with.

What I mean by professional benefit is that no law enforcement agent would or should willing lend a professional hand to someone who acts in defiance of the courts.  It can look VERY bad for them professionally if it comes out.  Of course you do have those who don't give a rat's a$$, those are the 'bad cops'.

That officer could have made the report, but when others get a hold of it, they will check to see who owns the property, they may even check to see what the CO specifically states in that regard, and literally toss it aside.  As long as he owns the property and there is nothing in the CO that says he can't drive on the grass there, nothing will happen to him.

What I DO suggest, when this is all said and done, is to file against her for harrassment, using a LEA to do so, and in the process, disparging his name and credibility with that agency.  Talk to your atty. about that one.

[kitten]

Pardon my ignorance.....LEA?

My BF not so anonymously informed him that she made a fool of herself in front of the good doc and that he would be glad to give him the date the show will air as soon as we find out.  The deputy's response was that he is working during the time that show is on and my bf promtly responded that he should learn how to use his VCR to tape it.  I think we'll just send him a copy.

BTW...my bf's father was a police officer in Boston for many years.  We also filed a formal complaint with his supervisor.  We will definately follow up on this sorry excuse for a deputy after the custody trial.  We will also file harassment charges, I can't tell you how much I wish she would start harassing ME.  So far, she has managed to not go there.  
My bf's attorney suggested that he bring a video camera with him when he picks up/drops off the kids.  We have a mini-van w/tinted windows so we are all over that!
Thank for your input Kitty!

[Kitty C.]

LEA:  law enforcement agency.

Guess I've been in this business too long...it's like the military, we speak in abbreviations, LOL!

And the video is an EXCELLENT idea!  But I'd keep it out there where everyone can see it....not sure if it would be admissible if she doesn't know about it.  Guaranteed she's gonna get her knickers in a twist when she sees it, but make sure it's rolling before you even step out of the vehicle. Tell her it's just to keep everyone honest and she's free to video herself, if she chooses to.  That you would have NO problem with that.

Then if she wants to act like an idiot, you've got it in STONE............

[joni]

send Dr. Phil's producers emails to let them know about BM behavior since the taping.  they're all about noncompliance.

[MYSONSDAD]

I get the same crap. The PBFH makes weekly visits to her local Police Department and fulls them full of crap. Then when I have to stay in 'her town', they follow me or do drive bys at my pick up and drop off times.

As long as we  keep our noses clean,  they can not do a damn thing. And it will further piss her off. They want to start trouble, but if they have nothing to go on, too bad!!!

Sooner or later, the LEA will get tired of the bull shit, then she will look like the a$$....

[StPaulieGirl]

Isn't it amazing that people like her can always find others to do their dirty work?  Reminds me of the neighbor from hell.  

My feelings about this move is that she still feels the need to punish your bf by depriving him of his kids.  After my mom passed away last September, my aunt strongly suggested that we move from CA to New Hampshire.  I looked at all the online newspapers in the larger cities, and figured their job situation was no better than here.  My kids told me they wanted to moved back to the desert when the probate circus was done.  My aunt was a little miffed, but I don't think I want to learn how to drive in blizzards at this late date.  Plus I know a lot of people up there, and my daughter and grandbaby live there, and there's one due on Christmas Day.  It just makes more sense.

You just can't take off to a state where you don't know anyone, and are unfamiliar with the extreme weather conditions.  It's stupid, imo.  Of course some people will go to extremes to avenge perceived slights against themselves even if it means hurting innocent people.  

You've both got your work cut out for yourselves.  Your bf should put in a change of address.  His ex shouldn't have any access to his mail.  

[kitten]

He is going to the post office today for the change of address.  He is also going to video tape her right out in the open when he comes for the kids.  He will also tape her deputy friend when he "just happens" to be in the neighborhood.  

[StPaulieGirl]

Excellent.  One wonders how much mail he should have gotten, but hasn't.  

If your bf can get her deputy friend on tape in uniform, it would be priceless.  Even so, a sworn law enforcement official is expected to uphold the law and behave in that capacity at all times. *cough*