Visitation for longer than 4 days at a time

[Agrarian]

I am the non custodial parent living in CA.  The custodial parent does not want the schoolage children at my house for more than 4 days at a time. They have been here that length of time in the past so this is a new complaint.  Does the State of CA have suggested visitation times and lengths of stay?

[Ref]

I googled just like you probably did, to find a standard agreement with no luck. Maybe someone from CA can be of some help.

I was wondering what your current agreement says your rights are. Also, how old is your child?


Ref

[Agrarian]

2 children ages 9 and 14

The agreement says 1 week at spring break and one week in the summer plus other midweek nights in the summer as mutually agreed.

[4honor]

Retorical Question:How did you end up with that?

What kind of distance are we talking about here?  My Hubby does EOW and we are 130 miles from SS one way... through a large city...in rush hour traffic.

This is not even the standard visitation for most states... which allow every other weekend and a midweek night. And alternating holidays.

Also, a week is not defined. Is it seven days? ... is it the weekdays and not the weekends?

[allajody]

We are in CA and dh ex tried this one stating it was tooo tramatic for the kids to be away from her for so long..we live about 3 hrs apart.  We now have kids eow during the school year 1/2 of all extended vac (thanksgiving,christmas,easter...) and every other week during the summer... dh ex doesn't like it much and still tries to mess with it.  Granted it did come after 5 years a lot of documentation and one wonderful attorney later.

[mistoffolees]

That's a terrible agreement.

Typical for 9 to 14 year olds is probably more like every other weekend, alternating holidays, and extended time (several weeks) in the summer and one evening during the week every week.

For example:
http://www.divorceinfo.com/standardvisitation.htm

Unless distance interferes, I'd be pushing for something much closer to the above.