Poll, sort of....

[jchallquist]

>(Peanutsdad can relate to this~)
>I've often wondered, for those of us in the NCP position with
>child support to pay.....
>if the roles were reversed, and knowing your CP, would
>they/her/him pay support? Would you, going from an NCP to CP,
>even ask for support?
>
>I'll reference my brothers case. He became the CP, legally,
>through court, in August 2002. Up until this time, he paid
>support and was paying back her welfare. (He is all FINISHED
>with that, btw--woohoo!).
>He took the position that although his daughter is entitled to
>be supported by her mother, also, he would not file for it. He
>felt that he could support her on his own (which he has), and
>he NEVER wanted money issues to come between mother and
>daughter (thinking mom might say something to the effect of
>"....I dont have the money to see you daughter, I have to pay
>support.." or something like that).
>
>As for my husband (NCP) and his ex--considering her
>history--leaching off the system, only holding part time jobs
>all this time (she doesnt work now), leaching off men, not
>following court orders...
>honestly---I know she would not pay anything to support her
>children.



Actually. I pay for EVERYTHING. Including medical, dental and vision expenses. One's dh is supposed to pay 50% of uninsured costs'. Well, that's NOT happening.
I've sent the bills, explainations, and receipts, One's Dh hasn't gotten them due to mail interception by One. I've got the proof they were delivered.
As to IF custody were to change, MY children would come FIRST and FOREMOST. Period. They come first NOW. They would come first while living with their father too. Period. My children are my world. Period. I know that One's Dh can't say the same. Because of One, my kids no longer have a relationship with their father. Because of One, the phone calls are screened. The sunday evening visitation calls from dad to the kids have stopped. Because of One, the kids don't want to deal with the mess she's brought about.
I read what she feeds you guys, It's her version of the events as she's wanting them to be told. If you were to sit in my seat, you'd see a whole new perspective of the issues at hand.
I have PROOF that she impersonate's her Dh when writing to me regarding the kids' bills.  I have proof that the bills are sent and delivered, yet he says, "send them again, I'll get them this time."
As for her discription of ME. It's the NEW WIFE SYNDROM. Jealousy. Plain and simple. I have HER Dh's children. She has NONE. I was married to her Dh first. She's got my seconds... She can have him. I am very happy for them. I am happy with my life.
1. I just finished college on May 4th.
2. I graduate this friday, May 14th.
3. My husband is VERY supportive of myself and my children. All three of them. Plus his own three.
4. MY children are very happy, healthy, loved and a joy.  They may be teenagers, and we have a few of the teenagers' type fights, but they are great kids just the same. No major problems... YET!!! LOL!!!

Oneandonly lies, cheats and steals in order to make me look bad to her "net friends". She makes jokes about how BAD i am. Is this someone that is really happy with their OWN life? Not from what I can see. Someone who has to put another down on an regular basis, is trying to bloster their own confidence. And abuser does this. Whether it's someone that is a  child abuser, or  it's spousal abuse. This is the first major sign of abuse. I don't read very much written by one to see that she's got anything else to do. Except look for me, and 'bash' me to no end.
I just want everyone to know that there are ALWAYS three sides to the story. The third is the actual truth.  And if you sit in on the truth, you'll begin to open your eyes.

I don't need any response. Just stop and smell the roses.

[wendl]

Well pesonally if you hate one so much why did you respond.

You basically said she badmouths you, aren't you doing the same thing"" Or is this do as I say not as I do". Hhmm isn't this what you just wrote "Someone who has to put another down on an regular basis, is trying to bloster their own confidence" you must have low confidence then cuz you just said what you say she does. Hmm take a look at yourself. No one is perferct.

Whatever relationship your ex has with his children is his choice not the choice of the new wife. Just becase you had his children doesn't mean sh&t, a marriage isn't about having kids and who does and doesn't, it deaper than that.  I am sure One would be a wonderful mom and if she had to pay support she would.

Also how childish, I highly doubt ANY second wives are jealous of their dh's ex, I know I am not. I'st extremely childish to even write it down, if you need to then you have some unresloved feeling for your ex husband.

If you weren't following her around on the net, what are the odds that you are here????? I am sure she didn't inform you of this site.

None of us know the entire story of any of the cases (with the exception of a few).

:)

[oneandonly]

buhbye~

[putkidsfirst]

"One's dh is supposed to pay 50% of uninsured costs'. Well, that's NOT happening. I've sent the bills, explainations, and receipts, One's Dh hasn't gotten them due to mail interception by One. I've got the proof they were delivered."

No need to say another word.  Take your proof of delivery to court and you will get a judgement against him immediately.  Why waste time telling us?  We can't grant it.

[SadStepMom]

It is a toss up - we would be estatic to have the kids and really wouldn't want her money.  But if we were to recieve childsupport I think we would just put it into accounts for the kids.

[MixedBag]

You have mail.

[AggieMom]

I  am sorry, how old are you?........6

>Actually. I pay for EVERYTHING. Including medical, dental and
>vision expenses. One's dh is supposed to pay 50% of uninsured
>costs'. Well, that's NOT happening.

YEA!  with what job?  I noticed that you bragged about everything else, but no mention of how you pay for EVERYTHING.....I think you mean new hubby pays for EVERYTHING!

>As for her discription of ME. It's the NEW WIFE SYNDROM.
>Jealousy. Plain and simple. I have HER Dh's children. She has
>NONE. I was married to her Dh first. She's got my seconds...
>She can have him. I am very happy for them. I am happy with my
>life.

First of all, I would think that you would sound a little more educated since you brag that you are graduating from college, sounds like to me you are still in KINDERGARTEN. "HE WAS MINE FIRST", "I have his babies"  Grow the hell up!
I also think that she hit your description right on the mark. You are a vindictive person who spends time doing to others what you say you hate that they do to you.  To me, what goes around comes around.  


>1. I just finished college on May 4th.
>2. I graduate this friday, May 14th.
>3. My husband is VERY supportive of myself and my children.

Good for you, do you want a cookie? Most of us here graduated from college, got to talk about yourself to boost your self esteem.  I have no doubt you mooched off the  system as long as you could to get what you wanted in the end.  


>I just want everyone to know that there are ALWAYS three sides
>to the story. The third is the actual truth.  And if you sit
>in on the truth, you'll begin to open your eyes.

Ya, and I can almost bet that you have told soooooo many lies to yourself that you have no idea what the truth relly is.  The third, in your opinion is the truth, but most likely is not even close.  You can not stand that she has him now or you would not even bother to be posting on the website or making such an ass out of yourself!  


Oh, by the way, I am also a College Graduate and a wonderful CP stepmom to my DH's EXGF's child!

~~AggieMom~~  

[oneandonly]

nm

[oneandonly]

Actually. I pay for EVERYTHING.
*You get child support and are not working-or at least, have not held a steady full time job in years-who is the "I" you refer to?*

 Including medical, dental and vision expenses. One's dh is supposed to pay 50% of uninsured costs'. Well, that's NOT happening.
*He has paid 50% of uninsured, by your own admittance*

I've sent the bills, explainations, and receipts,
*what you think you sent(dh shared with me) and what was actually sent (2 exchanges-one demanding interest)-is two different things*

 One's Dh hasn't gotten them due to mail interception by One.
*I'd be careful with accusing me of a federal offence*

I've got the proof they were delivered.
As to IF custody were to change, MY children would come FIRST and FOREMOST. Period. They come first NOW. They would come first while living with their father too. Period. My children are my world. Period. I know that One's Dh can't say the same. Because of One, my kids no longer have a relationship with their father.
*DH sends things, you feel the need to share this with the internet world*
 
Because of One, the phone calls are screened.
*6:45 am phone calls are NOT acceptable*

 The sunday evening visitation calls from dad to the kids have stopped.
*Last call, someone answers, hangs up, then line is busy--past phone calls monitored by you, taped by you, posted on internet*

 Because of One, the kids don't want to deal with the mess she's brought about.
*Kids don't know anything from this end---perhaps you shouldnt be going against the court order and sharing adult things with them?*

I read what she feeds you guys,
*stalker*
 
It's her version of the events as she's wanting them to be told. If you were to sit in my seat, you'd see a whole new perspective of the issues at hand.
I have PROOF that she impersonate's her Dh when writing to me regarding the kids' bills.
*I am NOT involved in this and never have been*
 
I have proof that the bills are sent and delivered, yet he says, "send them again, I'll get them this time."
*taken out of context-one bill sent through regular mail last year---was re-sent and paid-drama over*

As for her discription of ME. It's the NEW WIFE SYNDROM.
* I still appreciate the term "new wife" but it's been almost 4 yrs we've been married and together 7*
 
Jealousy.
*nope*
 
Plain and simple. I have HER Dh's children. She has NONE. I was married to her Dh first.
*together a whole 3 months-that's not a marriage*

 She's got my seconds... She can have him.
*He's a wonderful man-loyal, faithful, honest-shoulda really stuck it out, but glad ya didnt :)*

I am very happy for them. I am happy with my life.
*only when there's drama involved*

1. I just finished college on May 4th.
2. I graduate this friday, May 14th.
3. My husband is VERY supportive of myself and my children. All three of them. Plus his own three.
4. MY children are very happy, healthy, loved and a joy. They may be teenagers, and we have a few of the teenagers' type fights, but they are great kids just the same. No major problems... YET!!! LOL!!!

Oneandonly lies, cheats and steals
*committing libel here?*

in order to make me look bad to her "net friends".
*hmmmm....how would you know this? stalking?*

She makes jokes about how BAD i am.
*again, how would you know this?*

Is this someone that is really happy with their OWN life?
*Extremely happy*

 Not from what I can see.
*again, how would you "see" anything if you did not constantly stalk me?*
 
Someone who has to put another down on an regular basis, is trying to bloster their own confidence. And abuser does this. Whether it's someone that is a child abuser,
*you'd know about that now wouldnt you?*

or it's spousal abuse. This is the first major sign of abuse. I don't read very much written by one to see that she's got anything else to do.
*you sure did state a lot of examples for "not reading very much...*

Except look for me, and 'bash' me to no end.
*again, stalker, how would you know this?*

I just want everyone to know that there are ALWAYS three sides to the story. The third is the actual truth.
*thats probably the only sane thing you've ever said*

 And if you sit in on the truth, you'll begin to open your eyes.
*odd statement from someone who got into our emails*


I don't need any response. Just stop and smell the roses.

[zapped]

DH recently became CP of his 14 yo daughter. He has been paying CS since she was 1 and has held up to his CS obligations religiously except for a few times when he was laid off. DH is in the IT field in Silicon Valley (California) and needless to say it took him months to find a new job! I am a stay@home mom so it was torture for us when he was laid off! His arrears grew like wildfire when BM refused to temporarily suspend CS while he was unemployed (she still received his UI benefits, btw).

Anyway, now that the tables are turned, BM refused to waive arrears because she "needed protection" that we wouldn't seek CS against her. Lovely, aint it? She said that she just could not afford to get garnished and if we ever decided to open a CS case against her, she would re-open her child support case and go for the arrears that DH has.

Part of our agreement w/BM was that we would not seek CS from her and support SD 100% (along with our five other kids!) as long as she waived the arrears and completely closed the CS case against DH (she closed the "current support" and only chose to tell us this part of the story - we found out about the arrears after DH called to check on the status).

We're giving BM until the end of May to waive the arrears. If she doesn't, we are going to open a case and (from my understanding from these boards) the CS she is obligated to pay should pay off DH's arrears anyway (I hope this info is right!).

Either way, it makes me sad that she was so quick to get CS from DH (keep in mind that she has NEVER paid rent because she lived with her parents up until last year and she never had tuition or childcare payments for SD while she was growing up) and now that she is NCP, she refuses to be in the CS system.

Some people are just funny like that, I guess!