To those who have been following my posts and any others interested!

[Stepmom0418]

Well my DH attorney just called. I am pleased to announce that we ARE going to trial!! BM's attorney and DH attorney are going to submit a joint motion that the mediation agreement be vacated and move for trial! We thought they would fight us on moving for trial and try to make the mediation agreement a co but much to our surprise they WANT to go to trial.

The funniest thing is that BM's attorney has NO idea what he is up against and that BM has told him nothing but lies.

DH has TRUE and COMPLETE documentation as well as police reports and a long paper trail to prove all of our points.

As some of you know BM has made a point of making up lies to try and get supervised visits and ect. But we have been able to prove all of them as lies and NO supervised so far.

I imagine at this point BM is flipping and doesnt know what to do.

She will find something to try and make DH mad and upset as she always does but DH has figured out that the silent treatment works best and her anger will flare a bit and then she will calm down and it starts all over again!

Well we will have our trial date the first part of next week and I will let you know!

BTW this is our weekend and holiday with SS!! But we aren't getting our hopes up untill after he is in the car because she has a tendency to deny!!

Wish us luck for the weekend and up comming trial and please remember us in your prayers as well!!

[wendl]

Hope trial goes well and that you get ss this weekend.

:)

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**

[Kitty C.]

Good luck this weekend, SM!  I've got tom. off........4 day weekend, woohoo!  If I get a chance, I'll try to give you a call....see if you were able to get SS.  All I can tell you is to take FULL advantage of their ignorance!  Both the BM's about everything and her atty.'s about her!

No word on the job.....YET.  The suspense is KILLING me!  But they do have my number and could call tomorrow....in that case, you WILL be getting a call, LOL!  ;-)

[Stepmom0418]

Thank you!

[Stepmom0418]

Kitty we have talked alot about what BM has been up to and I know you agree with us that we HAVE to do what is in SS's best interest.

I personally am scared to death of trial and court but if its for SS I know I can do it.

Well tonight is the night that will tell alot. We are to pick SS up at 8pm.....now lets hope she is there with SS so we can pick him up.


Wouldnt be the first time she denied and i am sure it wont be the last time either especially with her track record. But this time we arent going to play we will go to court for contempt and also ask that something be put in the order that law enforcement is to make her comply with the CO.

Good Luck with the JOB!! You are still in our prayers. Go ahead and give me a call this weekend I will be here except if we get SS I think we are going to go to the zoo on Sunday. (got 4 child passes given to me so gotta pay for me and Dh and the other child is young enough she gets in free so its a pretty cheap outing and something we all would enjoy.)

We though about going camping this weekend but changed our mind due to the trial we thought we better try to save some $$ because we dont really know what kind of expences we are going to have once this gets started.

[onedaddy]

Good luck to you!
We are in the same boat and our trial is set for 9/28.
We met with the forensics evaluator last night for the very last time.  It was our time to tell what we wanted him to hear.  I had compromised a 14 page chronolgy of the events that have taken place over the past year and a half along with hundreds of pages of back-up.  He has been unable to view it as of yet.  But I brought forth all the key points, to show the pattern of maliciousness by the BM.  We also got to play tapes of her and her husband threatening both the DH and myself in front of the children.  He could not believe the language, especially the every other F word. Hooray!  He was quite tired as it was late but I believe he got the gist, as at the end he kept telling us how she could keep up the fight if we win custody and she could does this if we win custody and when we win custody..... I hope that as good a sign as I think it is.

Anyway, please let me know how you present and word that law enforcement can take over for further contempt.  I would like to add this to our CO as well.

Again, Best of luck!

[Stepmom0418]

We dont actually have our trial date as of yet but DH attorney is going to call us by Wednesday of next week and let us know a date. I am at the point that I just want to get it over so hopefully our lives can get back to NORMAL.....what ever normal is? LOL!

So far we have been unable to get into any type of CO counseling. We have requested once but so far it hasnt been put in CO so there is nothing being done. I think it would be a good idea and I also think it could work in our favor.

Bm is the kind of person that she would go in and say, " This is MY son and I want BLAH, BLAH, BLAH and (my dh) DH is a worthless piece of sh**! He dont know my son and son is scared to death of him ect, ect, ect!

We figure she can say all she wants because she has no evidence and we have tons of evidence and documentation as well.

Even a certain school official will testify as to what life is like for SS, and what it will continue to be because "that is the way BM's whole family is"


Anyways if we end up going for contempt then I will be glad to post back and let you know  how we go about the wording to get the police to enfore our order

On one hand I hope that we get SS without any kind of DRAMA from BM and her family but I also know from the past issues that we will more than likely have to deal with her DRAMA once again!!!

Good Luck to you at trial and please post back and let me know how it goes!

[onedaddy]

DRAMA, we know it!  BM's entire family is SO dramatic.  Especially in court, if I wasn't involved I would get quite a laugh out of it.  One officee in the preicnct where we drop off the children even lost it once.  Hopefully, the judges and law guaridians, etc. notice the more dramatic usually means their full of it
BM like in your case has no proof, consistently makes allegations and we are forced to prove each and every one of them.  i.e., my husband is a drug addict, we immediately took a urine test followed by hair follicle tests, all negative!  We offered to pay for hers she refused had her lawyer do a dance and was only forced to take it some 5 months later, hmm!  
We are being scrutinized now because she says my DH is OCD becuase he is clean, and incapable of being a good father, we surrendered all his medical records, which say back in 2001 he was recently diagnosed with OCD, the problem is it was BM who diagnosed him and told him to say this, no doctor actually diagnosed him.  We have been in therapy for quite sometime now, this is the only psychologists who has seen him long enough to properly diagnose him and she states he cleans as a defense mechanism, I mean this guys a plumber for god sakes. And even so, OCD, who cares, their step-father is an ex-con who spent 5 years in State prison, 2 1/2 of those for beating up his pregnant ex-girlfriend, he has 26 arrests for violence, domestic mostly and patroninzing a prostitue near the home the children live.  He has no rights to either of the 2 kids he has by 2 different different woman, yet he has more rights to my DH's kids then he does.  And the courts want us to defend OCD.  The kids lie alot too, which manifests the problem. But the evaluator yesterday says he believes my DH is obsessive but not compulsive.  I said who wouldn't be crazy out of their mind with all this sh**.   I know I am.  He says its something he's born with and has to learn to deal with, blah, blah, blah. Well she malicious, narcisstic, shall I go on, at least where in therapy, is she.  She ven lies to the children's psychologist we took her to court to force her to take them to.
Maybe we could deal with things, if we had some control over our lies.  She has had my husband falsely arrested 2x, threaten s again and again to do it again and that is extremely frightening.
We are supposed to get the children for the day on Monday, well see what excuse we get.  It's one day, will make BM look worse in court, so I'm not gonna stress.
Hope you have little drama on this eve and a great holiday weekend!
I will surely keep everyone posted and please do the same.

[Stepmom0418]

WOW!! Reading your post is an exact copy of our lives here! Isnt it amazing! Your problems and ours are SO much alike its almost crazy!!

I will keep everyone updated as this hopefully moves on rather quickly!!

We hope and pray everyday for an outcome that is the best for SS!!

[Stepmom0418]

Well once again BM denied visitation! And once again on DH's holiday weekend!

BM called our home at a little after 3pm yesterday and left a message stating that if we dont meet her at the station in town XX on Friday and on Monday then SS would not be going for the visit and her attorney instructed her to do so.

The CO says DH is to pick up SS at HER residence on Friday at 8pm and BM is to pick up SS at DH residence on Sunday unless it is DH holiday and then it shall be on Monday at 8pm.

We sent a form, got it off of Sparc, at the first of the week  that outlined the visitation and the pick up drop off points as well as the time. We recieved no response to the letter. We followed the CO and she once again was trying to change the CO to her liking!

I returned her call and got hung up on by her family. She then called my friends cell phone and her and i were talking and she was trying to tell me that we HAVE to follow the mediation agreement and she was trying to tell me that it has been signed by a judge.

I told her that the agreement was not signed by a judge and that her and her attorney know that we are following the CO not the agreement!! BM's mother was on the phone and she was arguing with me as well. I told them to both hang on as i arrived at my DH place of employment and they could talk to him about it.

DH told her the same thing I did and it ended up that BM threatened him that she was filing charges on him and then she hung up on him!

We did get a complaint from the sherriffs office so i am sure that will help as well as the voice message from BM. (mentioned above) So know we wait till Tuesday so we can get something done but till then we sit here once again with no SS!!