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Child Support Issues / after school care passed as activity?
« on: Sep 08, 2005, 04:50:19 PM »
Okay, ex has history of enrolling 10 year old son in after school programs, collecting additional cs from it, and pulling him out without notifying me. Never filed any exceptions to it... I should have. Live out of state -- they live in NC.

Now ex moved in with her parents and filed for more cs and has put son in an after school martial arts program. Originally claimed it was after school care, that gps never agreed to watch son after school, but now argument has change (probally because she realised that gps are watching the infant and so can watch my son). Ex claiming it is an activity: $350 a month. This activity will be from 3-6pm M-F; I can't imagine kids doing 3 hours every day of nothing but martial arts. I found karate classes in their area that meets 3 days a week and is free. Will forward the info. to ex.

So what are your thoughts/caveats? Think ex will pull this off?


I recently had my attourney look into this via his firms tax office.  Apparently there's been changes to the rules on claiming dependents.  They looked at publilcation 501 (Exemptions, Standard Deductions...)
for the year 2003 and noted changes from 2002.  For those of you familiar with the rules regarding claiming exemptions from the previous year, publication 501 now states:

"these special rules for divorced or seperated parents also apply to parents who never married"

among other changes.  Moreover, it doesn't look like never married NCP's who provide more than half the support can claim the exemption unless the custoidal parent releases the exemption claim...

Anyone know how this change came to be?  

Dear Socrateaser / son on medicaid
« on: Dec 06, 2005, 06:49:39 PM »
CP lives in NC, I live in PA.  Custody and support handled in PA.  Our son is 10 years old.

By order, cp is to maintain primary health insurance for son and I (NCP) to maintain secondary. CP has been withholding policy information from me for the past year. Just learned from CP that she has son on MEDICAID. Don't understand how CP can qualify for such coverage given that she makes 35k a year, has two kids (one with someone else), receives additional 11k a year from me for CS, and that I also provide (secondary) coverage for son.

I suspect CP is committing fraud (she has history of lying in support court to up CS -- in fact, I'm also paying for part of her old health ins. premium and then she switched to MEDICAID).

1.)  Given that this is state aid, will the state go after me for re-imbursement?  (I suspect CP did not provide my info. to state).

2.)  Also puzzled given her income, my CS, and the fact that I have coverage for son (I did offer to make my coverage primary, but cp refused) how can she qualify for such assistance.  Have any insight on this?


Dear Socrateaser / Discovery
« on: Dec 11, 2004, 05:19:18 PM »
The state is PA, mother has primary custody of 8 year old son.  Filed for custody in February.  Mother agreed to my discovery request -- to provide answers/supporting documents by November 4, 2004.  Mother never petition any discovery questions for us to answer.

Mother did not answer many of the questions and did not supply any documentation (such as school records, medical records, psych. records, etc.).  Asked her atty for documents and answers, atty replies she will supply answers when "they recieve the same."

I'm an out of state NCP; many of the discovery questions don't apply to me.

1)  They agreed to our discovery (and it was signed by a judge); can they now refuse it?


Dear Socrateaser / teacher's notes admissable?
« on: Sep 25, 2004, 07:28:38 AM »

State court is in PA.  Mother lives in PA with son.  I live in DE.   I have joint legal and shared custody of son.

My son's 1st grade teacher had him keep a journal where she would write notes on his classroom behavior for his mother to see.   Each entry in journal is followed by Mother's and teacher's signature.   I have photocopies of this journal.

1)  Will there be any problems in getting this admissable in court?

Dear Socrateaser / NCP visiits at school
« on: Sep 09, 2004, 05:07:06 PM »
        I'm a NCP of an 8 year old boy.  Mom and son llive in PA.  I have joint legal
        custody and partial physical custody every other weekend.  

        I drove up to my son's school in PA to visit him during free time.  Principal
        would not let me see him because I have custody on weekends.


       This issue is weighing very heavy on my psyche.


      1)  Do I need to have it specifically stated in court order that I can visit my
            son at public school?  

      2)  If this ends up being simply a matter of school policy, then can they expect
            such a policy once it becomes challenged?

Dear Soc.,

State in question: PA.
County:  Montgomery.

Two questions:

1) How can I look up past recommendations of evaulators in my county.  I'd like to get an indication on how strongly potential evaluators feel about issues that will arise in my case.

2) In a few weeks I am to attend a short list for my petition to change custody. I understand this mainly deals with scheduling issues -- but I am not clear of scheduling what? Since an evaluation has not been ordered yet (but I'm certain it will), and since from what I understand there is some variability on the time it takes to complete an evaluation, I don't see how a trial date can be set...

Any clarification on these two issues will be most appreciated!!!


Parenting Issues / school records...
« on: Dec 16, 2003, 05:51:54 PM »
My son's school does not have his school records from his earlier school.  He's been having discipline problems at his present school -- some bad days, but more good days than bad.  He's in the second grade.  He was *more unmanageable* in his previous school... admittedly, he has been improving.
I asked mom why the school doesn't have his school records from the previous  school and she says that's because the present school will hold this against him, i.e. label him, etc...

I would think that the more information the school has, the more effective their school conselor and psychiatrist can be.

What's you're take on this? And please feel free to dispense advice.

Visitation Issues / okay I tried...
« on: Oct 01, 2004, 07:32:43 PM »

For background, please see my earlier post with subject line "need help here."
Also CO states I have every custody every other weekend.

The weekend before last, I had a master's conference with respect to my contempt petition.  Hearing date is in late November.  Ex brought son to conference hoping to get him to testify... no testimony taken from either parties, just got our date.

Since son was at conference (which was on a Friday), my atty approached my son and she encouraged him to go.  My ex was on the spot this time and so when my son looked at her to see if he could go, she said he could go.  So I got him, we had a great time at the county fair, lots for rides, etc..

Got a letter earlier this week from mother accusing me of ruining that weekend since I didn't let him take a baby hamster home with him that Sunday.  She accused me of promising a hamster and not coming forth with it.  I was very clear with my son he can have a baby hamster after they're weaned.  And at the time they weren't, in fact their eyes had yet to open.  

So when I came this Friday, it was a repeat of all the crap that happened july, august, and beginning of september.  He was hiding behind his mother, holding on to her arm.  When I squated down (eye level) I reached out and tickled him.  He let go, laughed, and then grabbed his mother's arm again.  

Seeing that he was
responsive, I decided this time to try picking him up -- he wouldn't let go of his mother's arm, and so I put him back down.  He smiled a little -- this is somewhat of a game to him.  So this time I picked him up, unwrapped him from mother's arm, and started walking toward my car.  He was not kicking nor screaming -- which was what I had feared the earlier times.  Mother grabs his upperbody and starts pulling him from me.   Not wanting a tug-a-war, I let him go.  Mother then accuses me of trying to grab him against his will and take off.  She calls 911.

Police come, son hides behind mother, and I don't get custody of my son for the weekend.  Don't have this video taped -- tried to have pictures taken, but pickups are in evening, so nothing came out.

No allegations of abuse -- at least not to the police officers tonight.

Also, my wife was in the car, and mother -- unprovoked -- threatens wife.
Police had to physically restrain ex so that we could leave.

Bottom line:  Mother knows if she calls police I don't have my weekends.
I'm already at 3 months of denied visitatioon, and since court date in mid November, I'll have 3 more denials.

This is disgusting.   We've already filed a supplemental to our contempt petition.
It was granted emergency status, but at Masters' it was relegated to normal petition because "there's no blood."

On the brigher side, Mother's petition for an immediate move away was denied.
She was told she can't go until change in custody petition resolved.  

Visitation Issues / need help here....
« on: Sep 20, 2004, 05:07:57 PM »
Background: 8 year old son, lots of behavior problems.  CP refuses to get therapy for son.  Applied for change in custody several months ago.  I live out of state.

I hadn't had weekends with my son in over 3 months.  Mother has told him that I'm trying to take him away from her, that I have my atty lie for me, that I'm a liar, etc...

When I go to pick up my son, they (CP and son) put on quite a show.  Son hides behind his mother and refuses to go.   I spend time trying to get him away from his mother by saying we just go for pizza (in walking distance) and see afterwards if he'll go.  At pizza, he's back to normal... laughing, etc...  And then when we come back, he still refuses to go.  When police are called he continues hiding behind his mother.

Mother's action in all of this:  she stands there doing nothing.   I'd prefer her not to be out there at all, because her doing nothing only encourages him.  Also, lots of eye contact between the two while I try to negotiate with son.  For example, when I mention let's go to the playground, he looks at mother, mother grimmaces, and he says no.

I don't know what to do.  I'm hesitant to force him to go; I'm sure mother will only use this against me.  Also, worried about his mental well-being.  Mother is trying to make this pickups as difficult as possible for me.

When at masters (I filed for contempt) Mother claims she does her "best to get him to go."  Our hearing date scheduled in late November.  

I don't want to force him and I don't want to go until late November with missed visitations.  What should I do?
Advice please!

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