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Visitation Issues / I'm baaaaack!!!
« on: Aug 28, 2014, 10:15:45 PM »
Hi everyone. Well, after several years of reasonable peace, the **it has hit the fan again. I am also helping a friend who has no internet access. First I want to say hi to Kitty, Mixed bag & Ocean, and any of the other old timers. Sure hope y'all haven't forgotten me.
I'll try to bring y'all up to date. Gr8dad is doing well. He has remarried to a winner, finally. She is a nurse & they are so happy. He got transferred to Colorado about 1 1/2 years ago. My SO & I followed them here in February.
Believe it or not, DGD is 22 & stayed in MS. DGS #1 is 21 & went back to TX, & DGS #2, (my baby) is 16 & here in CO. with his dad.
Unfortunately, the wicked witch of the west has managed to get her hooks into #2 & caused a major breakdown. I guess you might say she has completed the set. Now all 3 have been driven into a mental hospital by her bs.
There is so much more I want to share but my Sweetie is in the hospital & I am exhausted from being there all day, everyday. I will be back tomorrow. Hugs to all.

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Father's Issues / Info needed
« on: Jul 03, 2012, 09:08:49 AM »
Hi to all the old timers. I'm back. Can't post much right now but things are going fairly well for me & mine.
I am helping a friend who is a single mom, lives way out in the woods & being stalked. We have heard some bad things about the guy & want to know the web sites where you can see old criminal records for free, so we know just how bad he really is. If anyone knows, please post. Thanks.
 

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 and Judge Dockery Is a waste & has no conscience! After dismissing a Capias warrant & granting a postponement, two weeks ago, Today, Judge Dockery summarily dismissed all motions & charges. The CS enforcement office had filed a motion, on behalf of gr8dad, for an increase of CS. It has never been increased since being figured at minimum wage, in 2002. The PBFH had her free lawyer file for a reduction. Judge dockery added the additional arrearages to the account & told PBFH to start paying.
This means that after 3 months if PBFH hasn't paid, CSE will send her a threatening letter. After 30 days, if she still doesn't pay, CSE files charges in Judge Dockery's court which takes about 4 to 6 months to get a date & then Judge Dockery will do the same thing again, as she has for the last 10 years. It stinks!

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Father's Issues / DGD is back home!
« on: Sep 30, 2011, 11:25:59 PM »
A life lesson has been learned & now she will back up & regroup. I got a call Monday of last week, from DGD bawling & saying that she had a fight with the guy who convinced her to move back to TX & she wants to come home. She had lots of job apps in place but there is no work. She moved back to a small town with maybe 35 small businesses & a grocery store & about 150 kids that graduated a month before she got there.
The PBFH wants nothing to do with her because she won't come help her with the new baby. Of course she lives about 15 miles away & PBFH threw her out the last time she was there & also won't send her boyfriend to pick her up. I talked to gr8dad & decided DF & I would go Tuesday to get her. Late Monday, she calls & says McDonalds called her & she has an interview on Wednesday. She will be staying.
After the interview, she calls & says she has the job as soon as she takes a 3 hour course & gets a county food handlers card. I call the health dept & find that the course is held on Thursdays & costs $20. I bank in that town so I call & get them to give her $25 so she can take the test & pay someone $5 for gas to take her. She calls back about 3:00 & says the guy has ditched her & she wants to come home. He is threatening her. I put the police on alert & learn that they are very familiar with him. He has a long criminal history & a reputation for abusing women. I called some friends & they went & picked her & her stuff up & took her to their home for the night. We left 4:30 AM, Thursday, drove 12 hours & got her. Left Friday morning & drove 12 hours back home. It has taken us a week to recover. LOL I am 2 dang old for this stuff. She is settled back in with her dad & brothers & glad to be home. She is looking for a job & planning to start college.
As we were leaving town, DF asked her if she wanted to stop by & say good-bye to her mother. She didn't say no, she said, "Hell No!" Hopefully, she has finally figured out the PBFH. Does the drama never end?

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Father's Issues / I just knew the other shoe would drop
« on: Aug 26, 2011, 12:39:06 PM »
The PBFH spent a whole 14 hours in jail. A judge dismissed the warrant "Because she just had a baby". One clerk, when asked why it was dismissed said, "Well, maybe if she hadn't had a c-section..." To which gr8dad responded, "Maybe if she didn't have another kid."
It has been reset for Sept. 15, at which time she will be offered a free lawyer & then it will take about 3 months for a new court date. Then she might get jail time but the baby will be about 4 months old & she is nursing so they won't do anything. Well, it felt good while it lasted. I guess this is another method to avoid paying CS. Just go have another kid. Oh well, I guess this is just another example of justice for fathers in the good old USA.

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Father's Issues / This must be Karma!
« on: Aug 25, 2011, 07:08:40 PM »
PBFH had a little girl night before last. Poor kid. Today as she checked out & was wheeled out of the hospital, the police were waiting. They took the baby from her arms & gave her to the father & slapped cuffs on her! Yippee. She had an outstanding warrant for failure to pay CS. Her bond is the entire amount she is delinquent & the interest. gr8dad will get it all. It is about $5,000. Her boyfriend immediately called DGD & told her that her dad called the police & had her mother arrested. What a crock. She probably signed up for welfare & they ran her & found it. The bf call gr8dad screaming that it was all his fault & he was stuck with a screaming baby while breakfast lunch & dinner for the baby is in jail.
Really made my day. Yeah, I do like this thing called Karma!

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Custody Issues / Default custody question
« on: Jul 29, 2011, 04:33:11 PM »
Got a question for a friend. He has a daughter who has severe mental health problems. She has been institutionalized for several years. She had her first major breakdown about 15 years ago. She had 2 kids by 2 different husbands before that. Because of her problems, my friend got custody of the older child, the father did not want him. He was in the process of applying for custody of the younger one who was about 3 at the time because the father was abusive.

One day the father showed up & took the little one & left. He let them visit for a few months, then disappeared. My friend has searched for him for the past 11 years. Every time he finds him, the guy takes off & goes back into hiding with the boy. He found one of the guy's girlfriends & she told him that the boy is abused, some physical & a lot of emotional abuse. He has been told that his grandfather is dead & his mother & brother do not want anything to do with him.

This time, he got a PI to find him & hired a lawyer to file in court on behalf of the mother (my friend is her guardian) for visitation & counseling. When the father was served, he had to go to the courthouse to acknowledge the issue & a court date was set. He did that, acknowledged that he has hidden the boy all these years, & then he took off again.The court date is this coming Tuesday. His lawyer says if he doesn't show up, he will win by default.

I suggested that they ammend the petition to ask for sole custody because the father has repeatedly shown that the father has no intention of fostering a relationship with the boy's mother, brother & grandfather. I think he should request supervised visitation for the father to show his willingness to keep the father involved, in spite of what he has done. Do you think this could be done. The court is in OK. My friend lives in KY. Also he has been a wonderful parent to the older boy, fostering a relationship with his father & doing a great job raising him. He is in college now.

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The PBFH has done it again. Got a call from DGD who has recently moved back to the town we moved from. She is 19 & the PBFH has been telling her how much better her life will be if she moves back. DGD didn't tell her she was coming & is staying about 11 miles from the PBFH. This really burned PBFH's bunns. DGD catches a ride into the town where PBFH lives to look for a job. Around 7:00 she stops by to see her & stays till about 10. At 10:00 she tells her that she hasn't been able to catch a ride back so if it is okay, she will crash there & go job hunting again in the morning. PBFH statrs yelling & cussing at her, & tells her that since she is no longer on visitation, she will not stay there & to get out.
That witch put her out in a very rough neighborhood at 10:00 at night. She walked to a gas station & kept calling everyone she knew till she finally begged someone to come get her. I know I am wrong but I really hope we get a call next month saying she died in childbirth. I am not a person to wish evil on anyone but I am feeling like the baby will definitely be better off without her, & the other kids will really be better off.
Incidentally, DGS#2 came home from summer visitation with ringworm all over, from head to toe. She took him to the ER, causing my DS a huge co-pay & then went to the pharmacy & bought over the counter stuff that still hasn't cleared it.
I am just so tired of the BS & emotional pain. I gave him $10 when he went. She had him use it to buy a fathers day gift for her boyfriend. I asked him what he bought for his dad & he said he would tell me later. He told me that she said to tell us that she helped pay for his dad's gift. I asked what it was & he told me that she said to tell us that he was giving him his good health. I asked how she helped pay for that & he said that it was because she bought the stuff for his ringworm.
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!! 5 more years, 5 more years!!!!!

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Visitation Issues / Screwed 'em again!
« on: May 24, 2011, 06:14:33 AM »
Well, the graduation war is over & as usual, the kids lost. She called Around 11AM Friday & said they were about 150 miles from their house. Kids told her they didn't think she would make it cuz they still had close to 600 miles to go & the graduation started at 7PM. She assured them that they were making great time & would be there.

The graduation went well. DGD was so beautiful & her smile lit up the room. DGS#1 was so handsome & tall. There is a short video on my facebook page, if anyone wants to see it. I don't know if I can put it on here.

The pbfh & her boyfriend rolled into gr8dad's front yard at 9:30PM. Walked in & said hardly a word. No apology, no hugs or greetings for the kids, nothing. Just kinda stood there with a look like, we're here. I still can't wrap my head around that. She hadn't seen them since Christmas. I would have been so all over them. It was so obvious that she had no intention of being at the graduation. She was wearing a pair of sweats & a ratty T-shirt & her hair was nasty.

So why did she even come? We think that one of the big kids told her that if she didn't gr8dad was not going to send DGS#2 unless she paid for a ticket or started paying her CS. gr8dad let that slip in hopes of getting her to the graduation for the kids sake. They stood in the kitchen, leaning on the counter, refused the party fixins, & rolled out at about 11PM to start the 700+ mile trip home. Never thought she would come, skipping graduation, grab DGS#2 & leave.

DGS#2 has a cell phone & was told all about dealing with emergencies. We decided not to inform the police about her boyfriend's parole violation of leaving the county or the outstanding warrant on her cuz as rotten as she is, we still didn't want DGS#2 to be involved with their arrest. So, the end of June, we will make the trek accross the country to go get him. In the mean time, we will pray that he is safe & reasonably happy. Then it will be back to business as usual, doing damage control to undue all the garbage she will have fed him for the month. The biggest thing will be to undue all the BS she will have preached about how unnecessary school is. Then it will be back to waiting for her to start some more $h!+.

Somehow they arrived home safely, although it was after 3PM Saturday. They should have made it by noon or 1PM, driving the speed limit. We were so worried. DGS#2's cell had died so we weren't getting any response from him. She didn't answer, either. We heard from them, just as gr8dad was about to call the state police. It turned out that they had decided to stop & visit her boyfriend's kids for a couple of hours.

I am pretty sure he was on something. He was twitching & made several trips out to the car in the hour & a half they were there. She did meth while preggo with DGS#2 so it wouldn't surprise me if she was still doing it. Why should this pregnancy be any different from the others.

Well, enough of this rant. Gotta get back to the normal insanity. DGD will be staying here. DGS#1 will have surgery on his shoulder, Thursday, to repair injury from a wreck back in March. Me, I will try to help gr8dad recover from the war & endure the wait till DGS#2 comes home, while trying to have a life with my fiance. Yeah, I guess it will just be insanity as usual. LOL

Thanks to all for all the advice & prayers through the war. I try to remember all of you in my daily prayers & pray that all have an easier road to travel than we have had. Good luck & God bless all.

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Visitation Issues / Graduation war enters final days
« on: May 18, 2011, 09:37:48 PM »
Well gr8dad has outdone himself. the pbfh is leaving TX Thursday evening, driving all night & will arrive sometime friday morning. She plans to attend the graduation & leave immediately to go back. Figuring they don't want to spring for a motel & his concern for his son riding back with them led him to offer to pay for a motel room so they can rest & get a fresh start Saturday morning. She flat out turned him down, saying that she had to get right back.

We don't know how she plans to make 2 twelve hour drives & attend a graduation in about 36 hours with no rest. It is scary. Does anyone know if that would be grounds to withhold DGS#2? Oh well, keep the prayers & good wishes headed our way, Thanks.

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