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#2721
My ex went to FC to file for a modification and my lawyer changed it to Supreme and lumped it all into the divorce action. You could ask your lawyer to fight to keep it in FC and the will stamp the final orders and they will be rolled into the divorce (since you really like the mediator). Her lawyer is trying to get a clean slate with a new person. UGGG....

I think it is funny that she really thinks she is going to WIN both cases when it looks like she is NOT! LOL She will be suprised.....Has she said if she will move without them recently?

Do you have a custody motion now if she does move? Then you can add all that modification stuff right into the new papers that you will be making. Either way you will have to make new papers unless she stays here and it all stays the same....

Good LUCK!!!
#2722
Hi,
SO far, so good! Why was mother-in-law allowed into the mediation room? You could have fought that. I know we had BM's boyfriend kicked out of the room once because he was not a party.
IF it goes past this next hearing, I would ask on the 10th to get consent to enroll children back in home-district. DO you think she will get a lawyer for both cases?
Keep up the GREAT work!!!
#2723
Do you have the exact days that you have the kids (the extra time too)? If you cold put that in calendar form and highlight the days you had and then the other days with a total, that should go far too.
Do you have a visitation plan for HER if you got custody? She moved so I would have her pay for transporting ect... but be generous too. Will she move without them?
I would also have a visitation plan ready IF you fail to stop the move. Make it detailed as possible with the school calendar. Ask for all long school breaks. They have them almost every month.
I am in NY too. With my SD, it was written that BM could not move more than 30 miles. Let us know what happens....
#2724
Father's Issues / RE: Fathers rights
Jul 07, 2006, 04:41:28 PM
He should go to the courthouse and file custody. Does his papers say anything about a move? Ours had a 30 mile clause. Will the move be during the summer? I really do not see him getting custody over a short move BUT he could get her to do more of the driving since she is the one to move. Is he in the home school district now? What is the parenting plan now? How old are the children? He needs to prove that it is not in the best interest of the children to move. There are cases that the move was stopped but usually not for 15 miles unless the other parent had the children half the time in the same school district.
Good luck!
#2725
Father's Issues / RE: Home alone
Jul 07, 2006, 04:34:25 PM
Legally it depends on the state. Some states have an age limit some leave it up to the parents. Maybe BM would be willing to give you the Fri and Mon of a weekend that is already a visit? Does SD want to come to your house extra? I would offer to have her for longer weekends or do the pick-ups and then she can get her on the way home from work. E-mail or write a quick non-judgemental letter and see what she says.
Good luck!
#2726
You can go to the court house and file for a parenting (visitation) plan or custody. Why do you have him for 12 hours? Does she work during this time?  
#2727
Father's Issues / RE: don't know where to turn
Jun 15, 2006, 07:03:10 PM
Hi,
What does your court order state exactly about visitation? Do you have anything yet on paper? If not, you need to wait until the next hearing and then ask for a temporary visitation plan for now. You can find some visitation schedules on this web site. Come up with what you would like to have (and more) before you go. You should be able to get overnights/weekends, time in the summer, holidays...If your work schedule permits, ask for the time you have off. When you make the final plan, be sure to put in there what happens when child becomes school age, times for drop-off and pick-up, exact dates for summer, who does the driving, birthdays, etc...the more you have in there and the easier your life should be. Good luck!
#2728
Does she take everything with her? I would think that she is not coming back unless the courts force her. If she gets a lawyer, they will want to drag their feet until school starts again. I would come up with a detailed vistation plan to hand the judge of what you would want for her visitation if she was out of state. Be liberal with it and show you are willing to work with her but that the kids have their roots in your hometown. Give her a big chunk of summer, exteneded vacations from school, and if she ever came to your town (with notice). Be very specific....dates/times/who picks up. Then in your back pocket I would have the schedule you would want if she was given custody. She should have to pay for all travel or bring them since she moved out of state. Use the school calendar to help you find the longer weekends. Almost every month has a least one. Can you ask for temporary summer visitation? Good luck!
#2729
Is she living with her mother now? She could say that you are getting a divorce and the only option is to live with her mother (which the court might consider). If you could prove that she ran off to live with the on-line boyfriend that would probably help. Your lawyer has to be quick (and court gets delayed/postponed or continued for months sometimes) because it will be hard to get them back once she enrolls them and they start school again.  Does she have a lawyer? I do not understand what 50/50 you are going for since you are in different states. Good luck!
#2730
You can file in your state because she has not been in the new state for 6 months. Others will help you but I know you can file in your state for temporary custody and force her to come back to TN to deal with custody/visitation.