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when you figure out how to make it work LET ME KNOW!!

I'd try this for our psychomommy!!

I signed legal papers that have my son  liveing with his father and I only get to see him every other weekend.  The reasoning for signing the papers were for my son to go to school down there, well he isn't.  So I'd like to know what I can do to change this court order.

SS-9 was scratched by our cat, who is such a butterball and baby that my friends 2 yr old can drag him around by his tail like a stuffed animal and he just lays there.

Unless SS did something serious to this cat theres no way he'd ever scratch.  He just doesn't.

DH wont talk to psychomommy so I just said that he is no longer allowed near the animals.  DH can act like its no big deal and psychomommy would just say its our fault so now its become  "MY HOUSE_MY RULES".  And sadly for DH thats is how it will be because it is MY house.

The boy needs help and they wont do it so I guess I'll just do what damage control can be done at my house.

Last fall our cat had kittens and one of them mysteriously died while my the 8 yr old ss was playing with it.  The next day I caught him "playing" with another kitten.  H e had it under a shoe box anda ws crushing it.

Since then there hadn't been any other incidents. Then this last week we went camping and fishing. SS caught a fish that was too small to keep so instead of just letting it go he slammed it as hard as he could into the water and thought it was funny!   Later the 11 yr old SS told me that younger ss has smashed a frog with a hammer!!  THIS IS REALLY DISTURBING TO ME!!  DH refuses to speak to psychomommy about it,
so i refuse to let ss play with any animals at our house.

there is another book called Splitting, but I think it's only available online

and go to this site...//www.BPDcentral.com

see if that gives you any ideas!

So, after reading Stop Walking on Eggshells, more than one, DH and I feel that biomom is Borderline Personality Disorder.

What are the best test for this?  Psychologist? Forensic Psychologist?
High functioning BPD can manipulate around testing, MMPI's normally wont work.

So what do we ask for when requesting psych testing?

We're asking that ALL parties, me&DH, ex&hubby, all do testing,we don't want to point fingers at her.

HELP

So, after reading Stop Walking on Eggshells, more than one, DH and I feel that biomom is Borderline Personality Disorder.

What are the best test for this?  Psychologist? Forensic Psychologist?
High functioning BPD can manipulate around testing, MMPI's normally wont work.

So what do we ask for when requesting psych testing?

We're asking that ALL parties, me&DH, ex&hubby, all do testing,we don't want to point fingers at her.

HELP

Biomom tried to commit suicide.  BD had grandson at the time.  

2 days later Biodad had court date for previous missed court and unpaid fines.  Grandson was with me.

Court ordered immediate payment of fines or 17 days in jail.  Hes gonna sit because we cant afford to pay and he should have paid this long ago.

However, when I went to social services to try to keep grandson because of biomoms suicide they said that wasnt a good enough reason to get involved.

The next day mom picked up grandson.That was last friday.  Today she called and told me that she cant handle him and asked me to pick him up, which I gladly did.

Mom was released from psychiatric unit on the condition that she get 30 consecutive days of treatment  or be readmitted or sent to jail.
Her first appt isnt until Aug. 1st.  So she hasnt attended any appt yet.


1) Should I now just file for custody?  

2) Go back to social services with new developments?

I'm so worried about the constant moving.

Thanks in advance for any new advice.

neither county-brown county in wisconsin is county of original order,
nor oconto county which is where child has lived for over a yr have the ability to conduct ex parte motion without social services initiating the proceeding.

I HATE to have them get involved if it can be avoided. I think at this time I'm just going to really push son and ex g/f to stipulate to an agreement otherwise it will go to trial.

Thanks for the help Soc.

Soc, I posted this on the custody board sunday.

We have since had another development. Last night biomom tried to commit suicide again-3rd time that we know of.
Son then took grandson to biomoms-2 1/2 hr drive with no drivers license.
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I'll try to keep this brief really need some advice.

G/S is 2. Biomom left over a yr ago, son has been
custodial for this time.

DH and I are actually primary caretakers. Son was
arrested for failure to pay support-birthing expenses.
He was pulled over for non registration of vehicle,
also received tickets for operating while
suspended-G/S was in the car, open intoxicant-blew 0.0
on breathalyzer. He failed to appear for court date
but no warrant shows up on CCAP. Son has low income
apartment and foodstamps. But stays with dh and i most of the time and we care for grandson.

Biomom has no permanent address she's currently with
her mother, was back with son for 3 weeks last month,
moved with friend last month, who kicked
her out. She hasnt had a job since g/s was born in
spite of not having custody, also she provides no
support.
DH and I, as recently as last week bought diapers,
clothes and shoes. Biomom continualy brings him home
w/o shoes/clothes/diapers. Son does this also.

Biomom has stolen sons adderal, and son has sold his
adderal. we just want baby to have a steady stable
home.

Biomoms dad and grandmother have both stated that they
would help dh and i with custody. And I absolutely
believe them, as we were friends with them before son
and biomom ever met.

I'm afraid if we dont file emergency custody soon-next day or two, they will not view it as an emergency.

What are your opinions?