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thanks so much for giving me the encouragement I needed to go to the hearing instead of calling to postpone and address it in June as bio dad had requested. This morning court opened even earlier than usual and they had morwe staff working and they all seemed ina  mood to get things done. We were called in, they went through all paperwork.They saw no reason to give bio dad an extension and the child support modification was done: child care added at 50 % and dad was asled to release an address so that medical bills could be send to him requests for reimbursement

Well it is very confusing as I have all the papers ready , at least the ones court requested. But his attorney added civil code etc etc if I don't respond to her request . I guess they are trying to lower his monthly support and they want to see all my bank history. I honestly have no other income and no support from anyone else so I'm not worried. But the whole situation is very confusing

I filed for a child support modification in december based on the fact that child care and out of pocket medical expenses were never factored in. Neither my job or his have changed.He still has no other kids and I was hoping that it was going to be quite simple. First court date: he requested an extension to address this with a 30 m free consultation with an attorney/
Second appointyment is this week. Foutr business days before our hearing, bio dad sent me through his attorny a request to release documents (same documents I was going to take to court) and extend the date to anotjher heating in June as they understand I wont have time to gather my papers. His attorny would not represent him at the hearing. So I would hate to waste time this week, taking a day off work, dropping my son extra early to be at court and paying extra to drop him off earlier and just waste hours to get a new date. I called the court today and they told me I needed to call at 8 am and explained this situation and they would give me a new court date. Does this sound right? I would hate to look bad just because I was given wrong info.

the other question I have is why his attorny is asking for more than what court asks. They want copies of my bank account for the last 24 months. Do they think I have another source of income? I dont have issues getting all those papers but it seems more than what the chuild support agency asks for.The court asks for laast 2 pay stubs.His attorny wants last 6. I dont have money to pay an attorney.Do I have the right to request that he releases the same info he is asking me to release?
thanks

we went to court as I filed for a modification of child support to include shared childcare and medical fees. what did bio dad do? request an extension so we now have another court day in late April.
he knew we had a court hearing and I don't understand why he didn't consult with an attorney before that court date. Now his argument is that he needs to consult with an attorney.
I have no clue what he is trying to do. I don't know if he is trying to get his finances ready, or to screw me up or what. I have never changed jobs so I make the same I was making when I filed the initial request in 2011. he works at the same place so he makes the same or slightly more. he could have had some tax issues or some jobs here amd there that he may not report.
so why would he request an extension? do I need to get an attorney now ?

I didn't received anything in the mail as I went to court directly and I completed everything with the free court facilitator.They told me they were notifying him.I don't have days off and if we need to postpone it, I will have to push it until Easter week

I filed for a child support modification to include shared childcare and shared medical expenses. The court date is Feb 5 and he wasn't served yet. I know he wasn't served because he has been texting me and he has not mentioned it at all. He is the kind of person who would get furious about something like this so I am positive he doesnt know yet.
Can the Los Angeles court change the date? can they still see me and my financial statement without him showing up?
I am taking time off work and I'd hate to go again and again and again

When our order was done, I never went to court and I had decided at that time to stay home instead of going back to work and leaving a premature child in the hands of a stranger. Therefore, childcare was never added to the amount the state figured as child support. This was done late in 2012. Now I have the same job I had when I filed and I probably make $ 2000 more per year and the father has the same job and if there is an increase , it is probably minimum.
I filed to request shared child care and shared medical expenses. Where I live, child care is about $ 1000 per month and I have a $ 20 and $ 30 co pay per visits and high percent on lab work etc etc. Right now I stopped sending my son to speech therapy as I can't afford the fees and we have a bill from a hospital for $ 400.
What are my chances of getting shared child care added?
what are my chances of getting less in monthly child support ? because as I said earlier I get an extra $ 2000 per year.
The father situation seems to be the same as before: own a house, no other kids, same job

I am completely new to this forum and I'd appreciate some non  legal help or help coming from parents, not from an attorney.
I have a son who has my last name as his bio dad was completely absent at the time of his birth. We were not married.
I filed for child support through the state agency and I never filed for custody.
My son sees his paternal relatives but he rarely sees his bio dad. let's say that in 2 1/2 years he saw his father 3 or 4 times and perhaps 2 of those were times I drove my son closer to his father who lives 66 miles away from us.
Father knows he has 100 % access to his son but I guess he is just not into being a father. He likes to receive updates and that's about it.
I didn't bother with child custody at first as my son is only 2 and he didn't really know what was going on. Since my son interacts with his aunties and grandfather, at some point the questions will start and here's my question:
shall I file for custody?
I am open to his father getting visitation.I am open to anything.I just don't know if he will request it.
Also, what are the advantages of filing for custody?
thanks
In case the state is relevant, we are in CA