I haven't cried since I was a kid

[msme]

First, let me say that our prayers are with you & your children.

Next, I don't think I have seen this in any other posts. Make sure the divorce lawyer you hire (& remember the word hire) is a Board certified Family Law & Custody Specialist. Lawyers are a lot like tatoos. Good ones aren't cheap & cheap ones often aren't good.

You must remember that you can pay a half dozen cheap lawyers a lot of money over several years while you are without your kids or pay one real good guy to get them now.

I know how much money is an issue but I sure wish we had the money we gave the first butthead lawyer who sat & said nothing while the idiot blonde judge gave the kids back to the PBFH who had numerous charges against her from CPS for neglect & abuse & had turned their home into a druggie flop house. The butthead then stood, shook my sons hand & said, "Well, we fought the good fight but that is the way it is in family court."

His bill for a substantial balance, over the huge retainer my son had paid, came the next day. The new lawyer called him & told him that if he ever contacted us again, he would represent my son in a malpractice suite against him.

Now back to that word hire. Remember that your lawyer WORKS for you & needs to listen to you & keep you up on all issues.

Can somebody tell me & homewrecked if there are county residency rules for custody? It seems like all I have ever seen are references to state residency laws. If that is the case, then he should be able to file for custody in his county, now.

I hope this helps, Good luck & God bless.



You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

[homewrecked]

That is truly escellrnt advice.  I will use it all.  

[homewrecked]

I truly appreciate your feedback. I have talked to a father's rights advocate, and he told me that the custody issue will have to be taken up in the county where they have most recently held permanent residency.  That is up there.

Thanks again on the lawyer advise. Consider it graciously accepted.

[homewrecked]

Honest men esteem and value nothing so much in this world as a real friend.

Such a one is as it were another self, to whom we impart our most secret thoughts, who partakes of our joy, and comforts us in our affliction; add to this, that his company is an everlasting pleasure to us.

-Bidpai

I thank you all for your counsel and kind words.  Please know, that each one of you has played a vital part in renewing my energy to stand up and ensure that this experience turns into a harsh, but valuable memory.

I have received so much from this group, the value is unmeasurable.

My promise is this:

The countless tools and recources will be utilized to capacity.  I will always cherish the support and encouragement.  Your words of wisdom will forever be appreciated.

I have printed several of your replies and posted them on my wall, so I can see them every day, as a constant source of refreshment and encouragement.

I'm have no idea what's coming next.  I haven't seen any end to this tunnel yet, but I know it's there.  I will return and post updates as they happen for those who may be interested.

Once again I thank you, but most importantly, my children thank you.

[broken_dad]

homewrecked,

I was up late reading through this site trying to learn as much as I need to in order to protect myself from what is going to happen next. I can only hope and pray that my situation will not be as crazy as yours sounds like it is. Although I am worried about the similarities I  see in the 2 situations. I was wondering if I could get some advice or info as to anything you have been able to use or do that made a positive change in your situation. I would love to get anything I can get my hands on so that I do not become the victim. Please advise.

PS: I dont know if you saw my previous post or not (called "Help I am in trouble!!") But the latest is she is FURIOUS that I filed for divorce and she wants child support (for kids I am not allowed near) as well as alimony!) I am scared and dont know what to do. Thios is a truly evil and vindictive person. I am going to be in for a long haul I can tell.