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General Issues / A looong time ago someone posted....

« on: Jun 30, 2004, 02:00:50 PM »

RULES FOR DATING MY DAUGHTER

If anyone has any idea where I can find this please please let me know.

Either post it here or e-mail me at [email protected]

Mu nephew's wife just had a baby girl over last weekend and I'd LOVE to send it to them.

Thanks if anyone can help!!

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Second Families / DH and his ex's

« on: Jan 12, 2006, 07:01:58 AM »

First ex has borderline personality disorder and I have been her target for the last 2-3 yrs when it switched to me from DH.  Now that I can effectively deal with her and her constant lies we've been thrown another curve.

I may collapse under the pressure, WHERE THE HELL DOES HE FIND THESE PSYCHOPATHS!!?


How do you deal with being punished for the stupidity of DH?

I am near my wits end and close to separating with him. When he was younger (9yrs ago) He got drunk and slept with his brothers g/f. She got pregnant and they never did DNA to determine whose child it is.

CHild has brothers name as middle and last name, but now she's claiming its DH's child. She can't find brother and we don't know where he is, so she's not getting any support. But DH pays religously to his ex so she knows where to get the money.

How close are sibling DNA? He and his brother could pass for twins if not for the age difference.

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Second Families / Kitty or others in Med Field qucik question

« on: Jan 07, 2005, 06:59:10 PM »

Dh had back surgery 4 yrs ago.  He was given a VERY limited amount of vicodin for pain.

Today he went back to Dr. because of more problems with his back.

Dr. gave him 120, yes 120! 500 mg vicodins!!

Isn't that a very addicting pain killer? Isnt that why the previous Dr. gave him soo little?

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Second Families / DH gives up....

« on: Dec 29, 2004, 08:03:39 AM »

After spending a week in jail, I,(stepmom) put a restraining order against the psychomommy for her false claims that put me there.

Court was monday.  She can't call our home or drop the children off here she and dh must meet somewhere else.

Today is the start of dh's xmas vacation.  When he called the kids they said they weren't coming here because of the lies in court.  And I don't mean that psycho told them lies about court she actually brought them to the courtroom.  NOthing that was said was a lie but she cerainly convinced them that it was.  
And with no visit then that means no way to tell them the truth!!

DH told me to unwrap and return their presents.  Of course I'm hoping he'll get past this, I won't return their gifts but does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with Him?  He's so hurt and angry right now!!

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Second Families / I"M STUNNED!! Judge granted me a TRO...

« on: Dec 14, 2004, 06:28:55 PM »

against DH's ex!!

States that ex cannot
                      Make reports to social services unless SHE personally can verify the charges she's making!!

                      Cannot call dept. of probation and report to my probation officer, unless she has verifiable proof that I've done something.  She can no longer just call and make accusations like she did 2 weeks ago.

                    Children can call our home, but the ex cannot!!  Due to the threats and tone of the previos messages!!

                     She cannot be within 100 yards of me or my son. She has to make alternate arrangements for pick up of the kids, she is not allowed on my property.

I have never ever pulled the MY LAND MY HOUSE card on DH, but after I went to jail because of her lies She can not come onto my property or call MY home. I will call the police for trespassing if she does come here.


I was soo thrilled that FINALLY FINALLY we might get something done, also spoke to attorney about the civil suit because I lost 1 of my jobs.
He;s gonna brainstorm with some others in the office and let me know what I need to bring them to start the process!!

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Second Families / Good thing that zoloft is working cuz BM .....

« on: Nov 08, 2004, 07:29:13 AM »

told DH on thursay that he couldn't have the kids this weekend, even though it is his court ordered weekend.

After the dramatics of the last month we decided that we'd let this go.
Friday night I went to work and Dh went to cut wood.

10 yr old ss called and left a message.  Psychomommy has to work this weekend so SHE DECIDED that the boys could come over.

No one was home except my 13 yr old.  And for anyone who's been reading about our last month, then you know that DH, myself, and my 13 yr old are all to odangerous to be around the kids.

She dumped the boys in our driveway-never checked to see if anyone was home(DH and I weren't), my 13 yr old called me at work cuz he didn't know what to do with them either.

I did finaly get ahold of DH and he got home about 1/2 hour after she dumped them.

I can't believe she did that, she literally just left them, with my son, who can hardly even deal with them!!  Never came to the door to even see if 13 yr old was there.

I just don't know what to do about this!!

Sorry this turned into such a long vent!!  GRRR!!!!

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Second Families / OY VEY!! 2 problems today....

« on: Nov 05, 2004, 07:51:42 PM »

First, sister in law thougth she'd be helpful and went into the skids school ( her daughter attends also) and spoke with the principal, the same principal who reported my son to social services.  

She explained some of what has happened over the last 4 yrs.  But, DH, nor I asked her to do that. Personally I thought it was a bad idea and would have asked her not to,  but TOOO LATE now.  Just waiting for psychomommy to call about the call she should be gettign from principal.

Second problem is this...Last night psychomommy refused to allow DH to speak with the kids, and said that if he showed up they wouldn't be there.  Tonite while I was working and DH was cutting wood, we got a call from OSS. They;re mom would be dropping them off in 45 minutes.
I told son to call me when they got there and I'd come home.

Nice that we have them, but she left them with my 13 yr old, who only 2 weeks ago was dangerous because of a story he wrote,  SHe never come to the door to see if either DH or I were home.  They got out of car and came in the house, without knowning who was even here.

I thought that was innappropriate.

And the talk my SIL had with principal is going to open a WHOLE NEW CAN OF WORMS!!   YIKES  Panic just thinking about it!!

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Second Families / Any others have anxiety disorders or panic attacks....

« on: Nov 01, 2004, 08:18:51 AM »

What I thought was my asthma acting up, has actually turned out to be anxiety attacks.

I went to the doctor when neither my fast acting or advair were working.

So now I;m taking Zoloft.  This all began after psychomommy reported my son to social servies so it makes sense.

How do you deal with it?

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Second Families / In the famous words of our dear Jilly, LET THE GAMES BEGIN

« on: Oct 13, 2004, 06:15:49 PM »

First of all I did take your advice Kitty, as this was my first instinct also, and spoke to the school superintendant.

I didn't focus on the ex or the children, except in the context of how my sons story came to the attention of the schoool.

I tried to stay focused on the fact that the school principal acted beyond her capacity in contacting my sons school.

The superintendant contacted the principal who then contacted the psychomommy.

Psychomommy called DH tonite and told him that I told the school that we had custody, that I was taking the children from school, and that I was entitled to the schools records.

I'm not sure how many remember but these were the same accustions she made 2 yrs ago and I spent a week, FULL 7 DAYS, in jail until they decided that the ex had in fact lied.

So please feel free to post any suggestions, however, bioson and I will be out of town for the next few days. I will be able to check any responses at the local library where we will be staying.  But DH called and told me today that I NEEDED to leave because the ex was "going to do something"  I'mnot sure what that means but I'd rather not take any chances.

And just a side note...Could the ex be bi-polar, or have some other disorder, as this happened at the same time of year the last time.
A traumatic event that triggers her problems at this time of year?

Also, after reading whippertizzy post, I realize that my problems are minute by comparison and am soooo sorry that your going through this.

Prayers and hugs to you.

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Second Families / Dealing with SS school re: social services...maybe TRO

« on: Oct 10, 2004, 07:34:42 PM »

I have a couple questions about the social worker at stepsons school.

I realize that as a mandatory reporter she was required to do what she felt she had to do.

But, once she contacted social services shouldn't her involvement then ended?

The problem as I see it (the mother bear protecting her cub) is that social services deemed the report unfounded and at that point the problem should have ended.  BUT, it didn't end there. THe school social worker faxed her entire report to social services to MY SONS SCHOOL
secretary, principal and psychologist.

I feel that. that was a major breech of confidentiality and a breech of my sons right to privacy!  There was NEVER a need for him to have to be dragged into the school ppychologist office for all his friends and classmates to see, then be sent back to class obviously upset and red-eyed from crying!

How should I deal with this?   I think there are a couple options, what do you guys think?

1) File a formal complaint with the state board of education

2) Go directly to the school superintendant and social worker

3) Just talk to our lawyer and see where she thinks we should take this.

I don't want to go to the lawyer cuz like everyone here knows  Her time is My money.

But I also don't know if any confidetiality laws were broken,

Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks